Using people's first name

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Does anyone have a problem with this?

I do. I find it a very invasive thing to do. It seems intimate to me to call someone by first name when I don't know them or only know them superficially. I almost expect them to shrink back because I am invading their privacy - but they don't, they just don't react to it at all. Does eye contact evoke similar feelings in those of you that avoid it?

I work in a company where you are supposed to call each other by the first name. With people on the same level that is fine, but with bosses or important managers I find it really difficult. I am still not used to it.

I mostly have a problem with this when the other person has a title of some sort like "doctor," "professor," "senator," etc.

I tend to avoid addressing someone by their name as well. For me this goes beyond people I don't know though, I even find myself uneasy about addressing someone I know very well by name, even my own wife. I am at a total loss as to why I am this way, it just does not feel right to address by name, although I realise it should. What's odd is that I find it easier if it's a child I'm addressing, but a fellow adult and I simply say "hey", "oi" or just say what I want to say and hope the person knows I'm speaking to them. Weird hang-up.

LL

personally all this first name last name ettiquite crap to me is worthless... it does not matter to me...

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Yeah I pretty much felt the same way. It was just ackward for me for the longest time to refer to someone by there first name. I really didnt do it until lately. Only now I somewhat do it. I only do it now kind of because I got a kick ass scolding from my aunt for not doing it.

I can't even call my boyfriend by his name to his face. I end up making all kinds of nicknames for him to avoid it, and it feels wierd when I do use it.

Whenever I do use people's names, even people that I've known for years, I tend to get their names muddled up. And it takes me a year or so to learn and remember them in the first place anyway.

I was raised to always expect first names to be used, I don't think it's weird at all. I do think it's rude to refer to men as "Dr." while women doctorates are "Ms" or called by their first name.
I was raised with a nickname that I abolished in 4th grade (not everyone respected that). I go by my shortened name, "kim" not "kimi".
I don't like hearing, "hey you", "miss", "missy", "girl", or "lady". I don't mind, "Ma'am".

I call everyone by first name except teachers and other people's parents. I have no issue with it.

I think the only time I ever use someones name when talking to them is if I have to yell to get their attention and they aren't the only person around. Otherwise, never. I think it is the exact same concept as looking someone in the eye. Too real, too personal, overwhelming. I can see how using nicknames or alternatives might help distance you from the situation but I won't even do that.

I find it difficult 2 remember names so therefore i prefer 2 have nicknames as its a lot easier 4 me.

I don't like using names too much, neither first nor surnames.