I feel like I am talking to Myself on this website

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I feel like Iv been where for a while not really made any friends. Im not trying to make friends. I dont really know how to make friends other than if it comes naturally which almost always inst the case. Theres some certain flow of how when you first post and then someone comments and that catches your attention aside from the regular standard replies("welcome, Hi," which is still fine btw) So you comment back on that and then the threads way differentering. ANd then you know the person?

Hi, I'm listening.

I've been here for years and I don't think I've made any friends. I just come here to commiserate with others.

you wont make real friends on this website but it is a good way to mix with other aspies perhaps if you go to a support group in your local area it might help you to make friends.

Define "friends". I mean most people online aren't going to call you up to do lunch.

The way I have found it is get an avatar and people will take more notice of you, and remember you better. It gives people an idea of kind of what you are like. But don't worry I am listening.

I'm listening. I haven't made any friends yet either, but then it always takes me awhile anyway. And this is the first social networking-type site I've ever been on. I would think that if you just keep posting about subjects that interest you, you'll eventually connect with someone.

I have posted on forums for years and never made any friends doing so. It never really occured that people would do so.
There are some people that I recognize and really appreciate their posts, but I have never made any sort of personal connection with them.

I think I don't have true friends here, but virtual friends who can talk to me or even write "Hi there, I've read your post..."

I wouldn't consider anyone on here friends either. I typically post here, in the news section, and in the forum games. I really like the forum games. I love the idea that there is a whole forum made just to play forum games. Some of those people, I feel a more kinship to, but only because they seem to enjoy forum games as well. Actually, I don't even know if they do.. Or if they're bored at work and doing them to fill time. I just assume they do.

I feel like I am writing to myself on this website topic

This is a great place to find ideas and examine other people's arguments. I learn a lot from the very intelligent ones. Great for the ego and the intellect!

Well I can't speak for her but I think you are talking along the lines of what Spokane girl spoke of when she said she feels suspicious when people don't answer her. I'm rather new here and struggling to get into conversations with people on here too. It takes time. Just realize that it takes time and try not to compare your progress too much to that of other people. Everyone moves at their own pace in terms of things like this.

I don't think the OP means making friends with people as in hanging out and talking on the phone. I think the OP means that they maybe don't feel as though they fit in here and they feel like they can't really get into a repertoire with anyone.

I never expected to come on here and make friends.
This place is more of a learning resource for me; through
reading others' experiences I can better understand my
own. I never had a reference point for a lot of the "quirky"
behavior in my life.

The forum serves more as a place where I can vent about
whatever is bugging me and where I can learn from others
doing the same. It's like a community journal.

If I meet someone here with similar interests and we become
"friends"...well, that's cool, but that never happens to me in
"real life" anyways...so why would I expect it to happen here?

At least no one is staring at me.

but yes get an avatar it helps to id u easier