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How did people react when you told them you were aspie? Did their attitude change towards you?

Have you been able or tried to tell people you fell out with, for the obvious reason, that you fell out becasue of Aspie attitude and have you recovered them?

I tried and no success, was that stupid of me???

Last edited by Loborojo on 22 Aug 2008, 6:13 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I got pity. Waaaaaay too much pity.

My friends pretty much said....

"Duh, we all knew this"

Yeah, sometimes it seems to me that they treat me like the poor one who needs help, which never happened before...or maybe I'm just too paranoid, don't know, I'm not officially diagnosed so I just told them I am quite positive I have it, probably saying nothing at all would have been better

My advice would be: don't tell anything.

Pretty much the only person who knows is my best friend, and she's aspie too, so...

I got pity from someone I don't like. She's very condescending and mean, and she tells stories about people, usually misinterpretting their words. The strange thing is, is that she seems to have aspergers herself. She's just not a nice person, and pitying me was just the last straw. She's one of my housemates. It's driving me nuts. I can't afford to move.

When I first told some of my acquatences that I had Asperger's, there was somewhat of a surprised reaction. When I first told a friend of mine, he said that it all made sense about my obsession with rock and roll. He knew some people who had it, so he knows. Another friend of mine - who would tease me- found out when I told him about how it is very easy for me to get offended. In other words, many of my friends were familiar with autism in general, so they were cool with it.

I haven't told too many people, but I find that mostly people don't believe me. Like they think I'm making it all up or went to some kind of quack doctor. I was diagnosed as an adult and when I told my sister, she was totally hostile to the idea. Another family member now seems to want to "catch me being Autistic" all the time. I don't know what I expected, but it's all pretty weird.

Most of the time I just don't tell people. I'm pretty good at fitting in, so I just keep quiet about being an Aspie. It's funny how easy it is to spot other Aspies, though. I work with several people who clearly have AS and I know they're undiagnosed. I think the world is full of people like me--Aspies that are kind of normal-seeming and either don't know they're affected or just don't talk about it.

Most reactions have been neutral- actually, pretty much no reaction. A couple people found it interesting and proceeded to ask some questions about it. Haven't had any negative or unpleasant reactions yet. No pity, either, which I am grateful for because I can not tolerate pity.

Iwas diagnosed with autism 40 years ago by our family doctor, but he said it was a milder case (no spectrum then), and since help wasn't readily available for autistic ppl back then my parents did what they could ( I think they did pretty good). Anyway until recently (the last couple of years) I haven't really told anyone, except counsellors because of our kids etc., however issues at work have arisen and I was forced to explain some of my reactions to various situations. If this had not happened I never would have mentioned it to my supervisors at work, I find it often tends to complicate issues. However my wife has mentioned it to this couple we met a few years ago (they are very similar to us) and we have been great friends ever since, with many shared interests.

I never tell anyone that anything is wrong with me. Isn't life hard enough without a label? It's pretty obvious that I am a little off in some way but why should I tell them what to expect when I am not always the same way anyway? That is just limiting myself.

The typical response from those who knew me was "That explains a lot about you."

Some of my family kind of new it, others didn't know what is was and when I explained it to them they said it kind of fits me.

one friend said to me in an argument "I don't even think its that bad". Then my other mate always says "you ain't got autism" "there's nothing wrong with ya". So I don't think he even believes aspergers or HFA even exists. It pisses me off a bit.

[quote="benjimanbreeg"]So I don't think he even believes aspergers or HFA even exists. It pisses me off a bit.[/quote
I can relate to that somewhat. My psych who I went to see to get documentation for university is in denial about his Aspie son and so refuses to consider the possibility that anyone has Asperger's.