Can, do Aspies cry sometimes?

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I get a lump in my throat sometimes with movies, or when I hear my mum on the phone from so far away and yet I am also considered a cold person or don't feel empathy with many things where I am supposed to feel some.
I am confused

Last edited by Loborojo on 06 Sep 2008, 10:41 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I cry all the time and I've been diagnosed with 'AS' (don't have it, was misdiagnosed and all my friends agree with me). I cry when bad things happen, during movies or tv shows, when I hear of something bad. Just because I supposedly have AS and supposedly have no empathy, it doesn't mean I don't.

Crying is perfectly natural emotion.

Crying is not an emotion.

Crying is a response of your body to an unusually powerful negative stimulus, such as pain. Aspies have emotions and tears--why else would Asperger's be so strongly comorbid with depression? It's a bit unusual for Aspies to cry over movies; that's more of an NT thing, but I'm sure it happens.

I'm an Aspie, I do cry sometimes about stuff but I know that some Aspies don't/can't cry.

The feeling is felt but not expressed the same way as an NT when an Aspie don't/can't cry (to the best of my knowledge).

My Theory: The misconception that we don't feel leads people to believe, when emotion is not expressed the same as an NT, that there is no feeling on the part of the Aspie.

It's not true but how can this be rectified?

I cry a lot. It's one of the main effects of my meltdowns.

As for crying over things like movies, it's very rare for me, but it does happen.

Occasionally, yes.

There has been alot of tears in my life, I don't think aspies are immune to crying.

lately when i see in a movie some heroe risking his own life to help others, that can make me cry. if someone dying or suffering there, i could not case less.

I cry occasionally. It happens mostly when I feel overwhelmed, if a bad thought pops into my head, or if I see an animal suffering in a movie, tv, or a story about it on the news. I cried for over a week when we had to put our dog to sleep. And yes, I have cried during a few movies. More so when I was younger than today, though.

I noticed I cried more easily as a kid. Now, its harder for me to cry. I read from a book that the older you are, worse something has to be to make you cry. It seems true for me. Nowadays, I hardly shed a tear unless something really hurts me inside. Even then, my crying doesn't last long. -Power Girl

Not often, but I have (as someone else said, it was more common when I was younger). In the United States, it's not a very good idea for a man to cry in public unless some horrible tragedy right out of a Homeric epic happened to him.

I cry almost every day, but I haven't had one of those huge crying fits for a long while now. Just a few tears. Yes, I am very sensitive to many things. And To those who think I'm a wuss, it takes a strong man to admit that he does cry, so (Adam Sandler's voice) Back off!. lol I hope this is helpful to others.

I cry when I am really sad, when I was a kid I cried whole lot.

Very, very rarely do I ever.

Lobo, I experience the same difficulties.

While I usually know that I do have emotions, sometimes I convince myself I don't when I'm angry over the fact that I can't cry emotionally. I have meltdowns, and I want to cry, but since I can't, I brutalize my lawn ornaments with a rake. 20 feet is the record according to my mother. This is the one thing since the diagnosis that she's actually concerned about.

Granted, I can cry over physical pain, but that doesn't help relieve the emotional stress.

Someone, who used to talk to me, said a few months ago that "Even people attempting suicide cry before they do it." This allowed me to prove her wrong.

Movies, fictional tv shows, the occasional commercial, etc., can tip me over into tears. Last night's "House MD" for instance. I watched it before so I knew how it ended, but I still started to tear up just about the point where one of the characters burst into tears.

It took me a week to stop crying over the death of my cat, who I had for 17 years and who died suddenly (in for a routine blood test and proceeded to have a heart attack...). I had that cat longer than the time it took me to get married and divorced. The latter was one of the very rare times I have cried for sadness ( for the cat, I didn't actually cry that long over the divorce - I seemed to get over that a lot quicker than other people in the same situation).

Usually if I cry, its because I find something beautiful, or touching, or something is so funny that I can't stop laughing, or I am angry, but very rarely for sadness. A man crying will tip me into tears as well, I am not sure why, I guess it is just more touching because of the pressure society puts on males to suck it up and bury the feelings, sigh. Someone singing a beautiful song will put the tears on.

I had a reputation for being a cryer in my youth. Funny, those people who labelled me that were the same jerks who were bullying me, sigh. Gee, I wonder why I cried. Same thing with the bully ex husband - he used to accuse me of crying to manipulate him, which wasn't true but a really good way to get me to feel like I was being too sensitive or over reacting, I suppose.

I don't usually understand why people on the reality shows burst into tears over relatives being far away - after all, they aren't going to be gone for the length of the show airing, only for the actual time of being on the island, etc. To me, its just not that long, and I do think "get over it". It is interesting that fake emotion on fictional shows means more to me than the so called "reality" shows, ::D: