Ignoring people

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Anyone who just ignores people a lot? As in the sense of:

not deliberately avoiding and shutting out the other's approaches because one does not know how to answer, is annoyed by it or dislikes the person, but just because it's unimportant, hard to pay attention to, hard to remember to socialise?

For example, when out with friends I ignore just do not listen or answer to people whom my friends meet or who join out group because they're friends of my friends. I just treat them as if they were not there, until maybe if I remember that I should talk to them. Generally, strangers nether bother me, I do not acknowledge their presence. (Edit: I know what all they're doing, what all they're saying, I automatically notice, but it feels like watching the landscape or gaping at animals at the zoo.)

I ignore my bother a lot. Sometimes I feel like I really don't like him. The thing is, he is 13, very loud, talks about fighting all the time which annoys me, always takes my seat...

I also ignore people I don't know. Actually I ignore one of my housemates too because I don't know what to say to him.

shure, its a common thing for AS to treat and view others as objects.
i would have often no desire to interact or talk with these " starngers" but in time one learns to adapt better.
politeness and civility give way to conversation and these are skills while not natural for me i can learn and i do chose to
execute.

adaptive behaviour i call it.

Yep.

Sometimes, it feels like the people aren't actually "there", and I'm on an empty planet (even if I know that they're there, it's just that they don't register as living to me). Other times, it's because I don't know what to say/can't find words to talk.

Both give the same effect.

Quite the reverse here - I seem to have a morbid fear of ignoring anybody, so as long as I can hear them, I always try to respond. If two people talk to me at the same time, I hate it.
I rarely answer the door when somebody knocks (unless I know and trust the caller), but if I get the idea that the person knows I'm in, that really upsets me. I've often longed for a button to press that would stop time for the rest of the world, so I could just see them when I'm good and ready, and they'd never know.

Sora, I used to be like that. My structured mind says "A friend of a friend means it's my friend that has to relate to them, not me." But nowadays I know better than to ignore them, it's considered impolite.

Friends of friends is awkward territory for me. I don't have the ignoring issue anymore, but I'm uncertain how to act.

If a friend of a friend happens to be an attractive male then most likely I'll do exactly the opposite to ignoring him. not that it ever works

I recognize what you say. It is difficult to think of something to talk about, people you totally do not know. Most other people I meet have something in common with me, like work/school etc.
So it looks like I am ignoring them (and to be honest, I try that sometimes consciously when I do not like them)

If I can't somehow avoid the matter of meeting "friends of my friends," I will never intentionally ignore them, though I've been accused of doing that very thing.

I try to be polite and greet new people but conversation with them always trails off rather quickly and others always end up taking up the slack. At that point I don't say much until a topic of interest comes up.

I don't know. I think I just don't have enough things in common with your average random person. I can't fake being interested in conversing with them when inside my head I'm bored to death. When I get bored my mind always wanders off and I accidentally tune people out even when they're talking directly to me.

Sometimes I can get away with people thinking I’m listening when I’m not but other times I’m not sure I come off too well. I don’t intentionally mean to be rude but random socializing is just so tiring and tedious to me. There’s only a limited amount of time where I can be entirely engaged with people before my brain goes somewhere else.

unless am have a regular routine with them-and have had medication,am wont interact with them,their existance means nothing to am.

I do it a lot and sometimes I'm not aware of it until I manage to cause them strife. Then it really makes me ignore them intentionally since I can't reason with them as to why I missed their message or call or whatever.

I seem to get misconstrued with this problem by most ppl. I don't know why this is.

Absent without being topic

I have analyzed the reason for ignoring others, and it is a conscious act. We reason that the other will sense that he or she is not to be seen or heard, and that the person will then behave in the way we want--invisible.

Of course, I am aware when others do this to me. It is for this reason that I work alone because in a team, if I am ignored, what happens is that I become ejected. I could lose my job, so I make sure this is not going to happen.

Every person who approaches or passes by me is a potentially overwhelming sensory and/or social challenge, so, yes, I tend to avoid people by ignoring them or otherwise. I know this is bad, but just to eek out a "hello" can be too much to muster some days. Often, I will just smile or nod, hoping that will suffice.

Yes, sometimes I don't know what I'm supposed to say or do in a given situation or quite when it's appropriate to say hi, so I err to my default preference of silence.