I've read some of Tony Attwood's book "Asperger's Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals" and it said how aspies have a "learning tide" that goes in and goes out. It means that people with Asperger's tend to have better and worse days that affect their learning in school. Some days they're social and attentive and learn very well in class; other days it's the complete opposite. He was describing aspies when they were younger and in primary school. Liane Holliday Willey also goes on to explain that her traits aren't nearly as present anymore as when she was a little kid, but they tend to "bubble in" once in awhile. I say that we aspies tend to have good days and bad days on the spectrum, just like everyone has good days and bad days, high functioning or low functioning days. It's just our matter of experience with dealing with these issues, with how much we learn about the social world, and how much becomes "automatic" over time. It never fully goes away I don't think, but the way we deal with this changes as we get older and learn social life hard way. I have these down days too, where I'm having trouble being around people, or I get highly suspicious or anxious of others not liking or accepting me. Maybe we get tired of socializing a lot, and sometimes it's just a way of our brains telling us we need a break? Almost like a runner has good up days and down days; days when they're tired and pooped out and other days when they're energized and going fast. They need easy days to get through the hard days. I've also heard Tony Attwood say at one of his conferences that aspies tend to use the thinking or intellectual side of our brain when we socialize, and the reason why we came home tired and (sometimes) angry after school when we were little kids was because we were almost literally socially tired or pooped out. Maybe it's the same later in our lives, that sometimes we just need a bit of alone time; time to stretch out and relax and be ourselves without the worry of messing up socially. After all, citing from Tony Attwood again, we technically wouldn't have a social disorder if we weren't around other people; we'd technically be "cured". Not saying that we need to be "cured", but just adding to the point that sometimes, without even our own noticing, we naturally need more alone time to just sit down and take a break. Socializing makes us tired.
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I'm 24 years old and live in WA State. I was diagnosed with Asperger's at 9. I received a BS in Psychology in 2011 and I intend to help people with Autistic Spectrum Disorders, either through research, application, or both. On the ?Pursuit of Aspieness?.