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19 Jun 2009, 1:22 pm

That'll be great, thanks Kaleido.


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15 Jul 2009, 3:46 pm

A brutal topic

Just finished reading. :?


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16 Jul 2009, 8:35 pm

I never cease to be astounded and disgusted by how NTs will take friendly, helpful constructive criticism as a personal attack on their ego. Something I think has been reinforced in the last few decades with this moronic notion that kids are so emotionally fragile and prone to thinking that they are worthless that we have to never criticize them and always praise them and call them "special" lest their "self-esteem" (AKA, their precious egos) is "damaged". It's like a kind of collective narcissism. If we for more honest with each other as a society we would be a much better society.


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17 Jul 2009, 12:27 am

Odin wrote:
I never cease to be astounded and disgusted by how NTs will take friendly, helpful constructive criticism as a personal attack on their ego. Something I think has been reinforced in the last few decades with this moronic notion that kids are so emotionally fragile and prone to thinking that they are worthless that we have to never criticize them and always praise them and call them "special" lest their "self-esteem" (AKA, their precious egos) is "damaged". It's like a kind of collective narcissism. If we for more honest with each other as a society we would be a much better society.


and of course, Aspies are pure and true and never have a meltdown if someone looks at them funny or calls them names and then says they can't take a joke.

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17 Jul 2009, 11:34 am

Is that sarcasm I detect, sinsboldly? I'm sorry, my Aspergers prevents me from understanding the concept.

To twist the old expression... 'If you can't say anything truthful to someone, don't say anything at all'.



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17 Jul 2009, 12:05 pm

Greentea, whenever I'm in conversation whether it is in person-person manner or online, I always choose to be honest.Not to say, that I wont hold back on some things however, I'm not going to lie though as, that tends to be dishonorable in my book among many things.Still, I realise a person must learn how to say things in a sincere manner without upsetting someone and all so, I do my best as possible even here on WP..



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19 Jul 2009, 4:24 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
Odin wrote:
I never cease to be astounded and disgusted by how NTs will take friendly, helpful constructive criticism as a personal attack on their ego. Something I think has been reinforced in the last few decades with this moronic notion that kids are so emotionally fragile and prone to thinking that they are worthless that we have to never criticize them and always praise them and call them "special" lest their "self-esteem" (AKA, their precious egos) is "damaged". It's like a kind of collective narcissism. If we for more honest with each other as a society we would be a much better society.


and of course, Aspies are pure and true and never have a meltdown if someone looks at them funny or calls them names and then says they can't take a joke.

I am so glad I am an Alpha. . . I wouldn't want to be a Beta!
I never said I was perfect either, but I rarely if ever take constructive criticism as a personal attack, in fact I tell people to be honest and tell me if they think I'm wrong or I screwed up because otherwise I never know if they actually agree with me or just telling me what I want to here. Jeez, I want to hear the facts even if I don't like the facts, I'm not like NTs who shoot the messenger if the messenger doesn't sat what those NTs want to hear.


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