My Aspie son has threatened to kill me.

Post Reply New Topic

If you're seriously worried, call the police and have him removed to a psych ward for observation.

Have you asked him why he wants to kill you?

Or you could just give him up for adoption like he's a recalcitrant house pet.

I believe Pekkla is his adoptive mother, which may shed some light on the issues and dynamics going on in their relationship, and which makes your remark about giving hm up for adoption very interesting and ironic.

I don't think telling someone to put their kid up for an adoption just because he is work is the right solution. Putting your kid up for an adoption is an easy way out and means you're quitting, giving up on your child. It be like my parents deciding to put me up for an adoption just because I wasn't speaking and I was behind in skills and I was too different. But however if the kid is too stressful for the mother and she is coming to a point where she is wanting to kill her kid to end her misery and she is very very stressed and depressed and is thinking about ending it with her kid and wanting to do it, then I would think putting her kid up for an adoption or handing her child over to the state is the best solution because killing isn't the answer. Some parents have killed their handicapped children and they claimed it was a mercy kill. Some people are not meant to have special needs kids and they didn't plan on it when they got pregnant.

thack you for the infomation... it does shed some light... and makes me near certain im right.. he is feeling crushed

but still no pekkkla

Just what has the mother done to her son that you feel is "crushing" him?

He is 13 years old. He lives with his family. He does not have a job. He does not have the luxury of doing whatever the hell he wants when ever the hell he wants. Asking him to wrap things up & hit the sack before the first day of school is most certainly not out of line. Threatening to kill his mother & smashing a hole in the wall with your fist is.

This discussion seems to have broken down into 2 camps. Teenagers who feel that their parents have no right to ask anything of them and parents who know it's not easy to be a parent.

right i said he is FEELING crushed.. i say this becuase from his point of view he is being dictated to... the family guy thread is a perfect example.. also the fact that she is not his real mother.. iwould make him wonder why this is so.. also.. reading all things here cant be good.


from his point of view he is being retricted and feels he is dyfunional... any way you have no right to bring our age to this.. i could throw alot of abuse at you but im to mature.

Yeah I know how annoying it is to be bossed around and told what to do and how to do your life and spend your free time. But sadly when you live with your parents, you must follow their rules and respect their home, that's why everyone says being a teen is tough because you are going from childhood to adulthood and you are at a stage where you start to make your own rules and standards and you want more freedom but unfortunately you are still a child so it makes it hard for the teen. That's why they call it adolescent. Its even the same when you're an adult except I think the difference is they learn to respect their parents rules and they don't argue and show disrespect, they just do it by following their rules, even if they don't like them.
That's probably why kids move out when they are an adult because they want their freedom. My mom still had to be home at a certain time when she was an adult because she was still living with her parents and she had to set an example for her little siblings so she moved to a dorm when she was in college so she have her freedom.

If I decided to have a room mate but the room mate was refusing to pick up after himself, take off his wet shoes, etc. because he didn't agree to my rules, I would tell him to move out since he can't respect them. But sadly you can't tell your underage kids to get out. I know you can still kick them out but it depends. My dad's friend kicked his teenage sons out and sent them to live with their mother because they were so out of control and they weren't respectful.

Last edited by Spokane_Girl on 19 Sep 2009, 11:53 am, edited 1 time in total.

sure he needs to respect his mother.. but she needs to get to the bottom of this....