Women who have aspergers: A non-issue for them

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Well, yes, consdiering he said he does. He won't get one though. Not when he hates women, so will probably have to resort to porn.

Posting these two unwritten social rules as a sticky thread would probably answer a lot of guys' complaints:

1) Nobody is obligated to like you or give you a chance.
2) Mutual attraction isn't something that can be explained logically. You will just get frustrated trying to figure it out.

If you have any questions about these 2 rules, consult a therapist.

I am bisexual and I don't expect that I will have a sexual or romantic relationship with women or men. But I am not self-pitying about it.

Or they marry you and try to change you, then get pissed at you and the world when they can't.

~Kate

To sum Up I don't think anyone should say its easier for anyone.

I am not an aspergers guy, so really I don't know what the deal is but a lot of aspergers guys can get GFs easily so i'm thinking its a personality problem not an aspergers problem.

Because if one autistic person can do something, then if another autistic person can't, then it's got to be personality?

Yes and No.

It depends on the person and the people involved. All I can say on this guy (who I can only judge by his posts here) does not have an attractive personality.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt132922.html

That is NOT true.

Still waiting for the OP to post in this thread and back himself up

Coming from a girl with aspergers, I have never been able to hold down a romantic relationship. I've dated aspie and NT and both have not worked out. Guys think I'm cute and when they ask me out I tell them no, simply because I don't want to hurt them or have them hurt me. I'm not desperate for a relationship at all. I think aspergers varies from person to person male or female. I am one of those who can't even hold down a friendship. Do I get all doomy and gloomy about it no.

Um, I think you're maybe taking the rejections too personally. I reject pretty much every single guy the first time, no matter how nice or attractive they are. (I'm sorry if that sounds mean but you have to realize that it's just a lot of pressure for a girl to handle, you know? And it doesn't mean I won't say yes later. I WILL say yes if we get along, and if we don't get along, do YOU want me to say yes?) A lot of girls just do not like to go out with someone they don't know. You have to slow down and get to know them first and not be so anxious to start a relationship, that can really turn people off. Right now you're coming across really bitter and desperate and THAT is really unattractive if you project that to the girls you meet IRL.

I've seen a lot of NT women come on here to talk about their AS boyfriends and husbands. A lot of women are understanding enough to want to be with AS guys. You just have to have a better attitude and not think about it too much.. just wait patiently, and hope that the right person might come along, but don't stress if she doesn't. There IS more to life, if you look for it.

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It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it.

If you're representative of guys, then no, you really can't get what it's like to be female.

Many of the so-called "advantages" you describe only exist to counteract disadvantages, and they don't even do a good job. How would you like to be in so much pain every month you can't think straight and not be able to get out of a test? Frankly tests are less painful than periods can be to some women, we'd gladly take the test if we could, rather than get out of it and have a period. Women have women-only things to get away from constant male-privilege crap. And we have had to fight for all of these things to exist at all. All you are doing is proving that you can't see your own privilege. Go read The Macho Paradox and get back here and say all that again.

I'm not representative of guys and never was. Most guys kiss women's butts. I don't kiss anyone's butt male or female.


That said: How is getting more prison time for the same crime as a woman an advantage? How is paying more for car insurance because you are a young man an advantage? How is being drafted and dying for a crooked politician/businessman in a dumb war an advantage? How is bearing the brunt of rejection by the opposite sex an advantage? How is being the one who is dumped most of the time an advantage? I could go on but I've said enough there.


That said, "that time of the month" like being pregnant, physically weaker on average, etc. comes with being female. Just like the above comes with being male. I don't see how you need all the women only stuff for your advantage. Given that you claimed equality. Men only groups are few and far between because if that weren't the case, there would be lawsuits from some gold digger. Plus, if you can't see your own privileges, how do you expect me to see mine? Even if I can? I never said I don't have certain advantages because of my sex because I do, but I said that women as a whole have it easier than men do.

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