How do Asperger people party?

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It depends on what type of party. If you're talking formal social gatherings with...say church people or coworkers... I'm always off to the side standing awkwardly by myself. I went through a crazy party phase right after moving out of my parents house. I could do it because I would get obnoxiously drunk. I didn't feel awkward...but I sure looked like a complete mess. No thanks. I don't do parties of any kind now.

I party like all other people do. I feel comfortable at parties with some people I know, and I always feel great at parties. But I don't attend them often, sadly. It's too far away, and I don't have much friends anymore, because I've been withdrawing from society.

I usually look for the stoner circle...and then I get drunk as well. I kind of prefer just drinking or otherwise indulging with a smaller group of people as parties tend to distract from the experiance.

I've only been to one actual "party." I've been to lots of gatherings where everyone is smashed but they keep drinking. I like those because nobody expects you to make small talk, the only thing I don't like is obnoxious drunks. I'm more of a giggly drunk, I just laugh a lot and make dumb jokes.

At the regular party I just sat alone in the corner and people-watched.

I do whatever I can to fit in and get by. It's not until I got older than I realized how much I dread and hate parties.

I like to stay at home and do research.

I used to LOVE halo parties. I could still dig 'em, if anyone I knew had one. But just drinking and grinding? Yuck... I don't want smelly creepy guys/girls all bumpin up on my personal space. If I had to go, I'd take a book. Apparently that makes you a 'downer' but I say they're jerks for tryina force me to be uncomfortable just to make them feel better.

If I have no basis to believe there will be interesting conversation to be had, and I have no social obligation (family, girlfriend wants to go, supporting sporting club), I almost never go. When I get there, I will try to direct the conversation to a point where I can talk about an idea I had or ask questions on a topic I'm interested in from someone with expertise. If that doesn't work, I'll either move on to another conversation (if it's not a small party), or if I've realised I can't get any more of that going, I'll either sit there and play with my phone for a bit, or leave.

I hate nightclubs. I don't mind bars sometimes, especially if it's a quiet bar during the week where I can talk with my friends.

The day "alcohol" replaced "cake" as the most anticipated condiment at my friends' parties, I stopped going to them.

I'm having a Sherlock marathon as a pre-prom party on Wednesday, which should be the best party I'll have attended with friends since the World Cup.

i dont party. i am not the type to get invited. when i do it is only out of politeness. every second at a party is painful. i know no one, neither am i interested in them. we have nought in common- they are boring, vapid and at times dreadfully bigoted or b!tchy. when i go i am forced to do so by my parents. i hate having to play nice with people i know talk about me behind my back. so wearing clothes that i feel wrong in i go, sit alone amongst enemies, am bombarded by flashing, funny coloured lights, loud, jaunty music, heat and big crowds. frequent brakes for the loo are made. i dont go, i just stand inside, hug myself and twist from side to side. this apie does not party.

I don't do parties. I am forced to go to social gatherings for special occasions.

After the painful entrance, where everyone says Hi and we have the fake "how are you" conversations where nobody really cares, I sit in a corner somewhere. Sometimes someone will come over and ask "hows work" (they don't really care, but feel the need to say something) or hows my horse (again, a one word answer from me, because I know they really don't care). Here is where my iphone comes in really handy, as I can look busy and avoid interaction.

I also get the "when are you getting married" (when we feel like it) and the when are you having kids (pls butt out of my personal life, kthxbye)

To make things worse, there are usually small kids running around, and often a baby. Woe betide the person who tries to get me to interact with the baby.


Then I wait for my OH to finish his socialness, (throw in a few "can we go now" looks here and there, while dreading the fake compulsory kiss and hug before being able to leave). Recently I've tried hanging back from people to avoid the kissy hug crap.



Walking through the door at home is such a relief after these social outings.

As my friend with a mild form of Aspergers (no-one would suspect) suggests, you can't sulk in the corner (as a note, these for mostly high school dance parties or some family occasions). Your just attracting negative attention to yourself. You have to get out there and party! Of course I am not the party type at all. I find it extremely difficult to become social and begin conversations but all costs, I can't be that one guy sulking in the corner.

I guess the tip is to bring a friend you know and like with you so at least you have someone to talk to. Otherwise, you have to explore and find something that at least suggests your part of the party. Find someone telling a story and listen, where you don't even have to talk.

Family occasions are probably much more easy. When family is still growing up with collage, internships, and jobs, I usually want to hear about it. Don't be afraid to ask some specific questions about their job, what are they going to do, and try to find some interesting facts (a mini-learning experience).

As for the loud noises ( I hate loud music ), there should be an entrance where a few people are hanging out and the music is alot less loud.

I don't party. Never did when younger either

Total geekyness.
My next party, we're all dressing up as Bioshock characters, playing video games and sitting around doing nothing. Love it.