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16 Jan 2012, 6:03 pm

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Just because I am myself different from the norm, doesn't mean I automatically have to accept everyone else who is different from the norm. Some people who are different, are basically harmless. And some people who are different, are quite dangerous and malicious types to be around.

Also sometimes one person's way of being different could clash horribly with my own. Not that there is anything "wrong" with either of us being the way we are, just that I don't mesh well with that person.

I reserve the right to make my own judgements about people at all times.

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This is what I believe, DEEPLY.

I don't necessarily consider myself eccentric, I SUPPOSE mildly so but iIve been called eccentric and WEIRD all my life, so that's what people think of me.

Some people like it, other people don't.

But yeah, I might be weird or different, but that damn sure doesn't mean I group myself in with the rejects of society. If anything it means I'm going to work harder to put distance between myself and them.

If a "crazy" person can make something out of themselves, good for them. I would be less likely to be repelled by them in this case (given that they were't potentially dangerous or extremely manipulative) and I know that isn't fair, but I don't care.

I don't want to be associated with them, it isn't just the crazy part (or even necessarily the fact that they are crazy in and of itself, more so it's the qualities they are likely to posses) that I don't like, it's that I have goals and planning on doing something with my life, hanging out with these types or even dealing with my family members who fit into this category is not part of the plan.


That's ok, us rejects of society probably prefer to distance ourselves from

people like you as well :evil:


If you really think you are a reject of society than I'm genuinely sorry for saying that, because you seem nice enough to me.

What I was saying is that IMO (most) people on the spectrum have an opportunity to make something of themselves. Maybe you're eccentric, but you're probably talented in some way, so you aren't a lost cause.

And since you're in charge of your faculties, you have a better chance of overcoming your difficulties than a crazy person does.

So I don't think you're a reject of society, but I don't know you so I can't say for sure. You seem well spoken enough.

If you're just grouping yourself in with them as an act of solidarity, I would personally advise you against it but that's totally your choice.

In any case, I didn't mean to put you or anyone here in that category.


No its cool it comes with the territory of being different.......I guess, and no I don't have a special talent, even if I did though I would not think people that don't are 'lost causes' I would just think they are people without special skills. Also, what faculties do you mean?......because psychologically I am actually pretty screwed up. And yes by the very definition of a reject of society that is exactly what I am it was clear to me when I was kid because of how I was treated by this society.

I am just grouping myself in with the group I was thrown into...........I see nothing wrong with people who don't fit in, I'm one myself.


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16 Jan 2012, 6:38 pm

As a general rule the less you fit in the more likely you are to be talented.

Just because you haven't found your talent yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

It is however nice to see that you seem to embrace your differences and not reject them, you'll be happier for that in the end.



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16 Jan 2012, 6:41 pm

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As a general rule the less you fit in the more likely you are to be talented.

Just because you haven't found your talent yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

It is however nice to see that you seem to embrace your differences and not reject them, you'll be happier for that in the end.


And just because I don't fit in does not mean I have any specific talent.....I wish I could say I had some awesome special skill that would make up for all the hell I went through as a kid and that could help me get somewhere in life now but I don't.


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16 Jan 2012, 6:51 pm

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As a general rule the less you fit in the more likely you are to be talented.

Just because you haven't found your talent yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

It is however nice to see that you seem to embrace your differences and not reject them, you'll be happier for that in the end.


And just because I don't fit in does not mean I have any specific talent.....I wish I could say I had some awesome special skill that would make up for all the hell I went through as a kid and that could help me get somewhere in life now but I don't.


How do you know? Have you tried everything there is in life to try?

Keep looking and you eventually find a talent, or at the very least something you are interested in and can practice to the point you become excellent at it.



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16 Jan 2012, 6:55 pm

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As a general rule the less you fit in the more likely you are to be talented.

Just because you haven't found your talent yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

It is however nice to see that you seem to embrace your differences and not reject them, you'll be happier for that in the end.


And just because I don't fit in does not mean I have any specific talent.....I wish I could say I had some awesome special skill that would make up for all the hell I went through as a kid and that could help me get somewhere in life now but I don't.


How do you know? Have you tried everything there is in life to try?

Keep looking and you eventually find a talent, or at the very least something you are interested in and can practice to the point you become excellent at it.


There is no guarantee I would have any talent to make up for anything, life is not that fair. I seem to fail at everything I try so that does not really motivate me to try everything in life there is to try. It's just not a big deal.........I'm a reject without a special talent, it happens.


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16 Jan 2012, 6:57 pm

It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.



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16 Jan 2012, 7:02 pm

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It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.


Well I can't let it be too big of a deal to me or it will just bother me......but yeah any talents i might have developed were lost because I was so used to everyone telling me how much I suck at everything I eventually got to the point where I don't even try to get super good at things because I don't want to be humiliated for trying which is how it goes in my life quite a lot.


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16 Jan 2012, 7:06 pm

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It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.


Well I can't let it be too big of a deal to me or it will just bother me......but yeah any talents i might have developed were lost because I was so used to everyone telling me how much I suck at everything I eventually got to the point where I don't even try to get super good at things because I don't want to be humiliated for trying which is how it goes in my life quite a lot.


If that's how you see it, you'll never have a talent in your life! No matter what anyone does they never start off being good at it, it takes work.

Worst come worst, find something you enjoy and hide it from others until you are good at it, then what can they say?



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16 Jan 2012, 7:12 pm

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It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.


Well I can't let it be too big of a deal to me or it will just bother me......but yeah any talents i might have developed were lost because I was so used to everyone telling me how much I suck at everything I eventually got to the point where I don't even try to get super good at things because I don't want to be humiliated for trying which is how it goes in my life quite a lot.


If that's how you see it, you'll never have a talent in your life! No matter what anyone does they never start off being good at it, it takes work.

Worst come worst, find something you enjoy and hide it from others until you are good at it, then what can they say?


Well I can research things pretty well, which was kinda helpful for college but other then that I did not really develop any real talents. I never really had a supportive environment in which to thrive in any interests I might have had and wanted to do something with. At this point in time everything is just so overwhelming I feel not having a special talent is the least of my worries.


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16 Jan 2012, 7:18 pm

From what I've seen so far on here, you have a supportive environment now, so why not let it grow?


At any rate, I believe I'm prying a bit much now. If you'd like to continue the conversation feel free to message me.



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16 Jan 2012, 7:21 pm

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From what I've seen so far on here, you have a supportive environment now, so why not let it grow?


At any rate, I believe I'm prying a bit much now. If you'd like to continue the conversation feel free to message me.


Because I don't feel I actually have such an environment and by now I'm already burnt out.


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16 Jan 2012, 8:05 pm

At 22? Well, yeah I was a huge cynic at that age. It took me more than a decade to realize I still had tons of stuff to learn/experience..
As I'm a poet I guess I fit into the Crazy, weirdo, hippy" category comfortably! ROFLOL
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On a seperate issue, but related to my first sentence also, I don't think you are 'burned out" I suspect you are suffering from a bit of depression.

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PS. I do attract those people sometimes, and with ONE exception (who I actually thought was a sweet, sexy, normal woman) they have enriched my Life.



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17 Jan 2012, 4:33 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
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It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.


Well I can't let it be too big of a deal to me or it will just bother me......but yeah any talents i might have developed were lost because I was so used to everyone telling me how much I suck at everything I eventually got to the point where I don't even try to get super good at things because I don't want to be humiliated for trying which is how it goes in my life quite a lot.


If that's how you see it, you'll never have a talent in your life! No matter what anyone does they never start off being good at it, it takes work.

Worst come worst, find something you enjoy and hide it from others until you are good at it, then what can they say?


Well I can research things pretty well, which was kinda helpful for college but other then that I did not really develop any real talents. I never really had a supportive environment in which to thrive in any interests I might have had and wanted to do something with. At this point in time everything is just so overwhelming I feel not having a special talent is the least of my worries.


I haven't read all these posts but you look quite young.

I felt the same way when I was your age. It was due to a lot of things, and also just thinking that I had an unkown defect that could never be fixed (before I knew anything about ASD).

I don't know if you do have a specific talent,I don't have anything like MAJOR artistic talent or anything. Everyone in my family does( and they range from chronically unstable to certifiably insane).

But, I mean that I'm ALMOST sure you'll find something you're especially good at it.

It doesn't have to be a "special skill".

In fact, crazy people are often the ones who possess very "special" skills, but they don't even have "regular" skills. They may have something close to a super power, but it's rendered useless because they don't have the processing ability to cope with daily life. You could say that about some people on the spectrum as well, but they still have a set of basic/survival skills that is more in tact than that of of your average schizophrenic.

Anyway, there are similarities in many areas but I personally feel like the average ASD individual will have an easier time making something of themselves than the average crazy person.



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17 Jan 2012, 7:48 pm

Almost all of my mom's side of the family are hippies! So yeah, I'm defidentally around Hippies most of the time.


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17 Jan 2012, 9:31 pm

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At 22? Well, yeah I was a huge cynic at that age. It took me more than a decade to realize I still had tons of stuff to learn/experience..
As I'm a poet I guess I fit into the Crazy, weirdo, hippy" category comfortably! ROFLOL
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On a seperate issue, but related to my first sentence also, I don't think you are 'burned out" I suspect you are suffering from a bit of depression.

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PS. I do attract those people sometimes, and with ONE exception (who I actually thought was a sweet, sexy, normal woman) they have enriched my Life.


I think it's both, being depressed and anxious for so long with PTSD on top of it.........yeah I think its possible to be depressed and burnt out.


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17 Jan 2012, 9:33 pm

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It may not be a big deal to you, but to me whenever someone feels like they have no skills or no reason behind their existence it matters to me.


Well I can't let it be too big of a deal to me or it will just bother me......but yeah any talents i might have developed were lost because I was so used to everyone telling me how much I suck at everything I eventually got to the point where I don't even try to get super good at things because I don't want to be humiliated for trying which is how it goes in my life quite a lot.


If that's how you see it, you'll never have a talent in your life! No matter what anyone does they never start off being good at it, it takes work.

Worst come worst, find something you enjoy and hide it from others until you are good at it, then what can they say?


Well I can research things pretty well, which was kinda helpful for college but other then that I did not really develop any real talents. I never really had a supportive environment in which to thrive in any interests I might have had and wanted to do something with. At this point in time everything is just so overwhelming I feel not having a special talent is the least of my worries.


I haven't read all these posts but you look quite young.

I felt the same way when I was your age. It was due to a lot of things, and also just thinking that I had an unkown defect that could never be fixed (before I knew anything about ASD).

I don't know if you do have a specific talent,I don't have anything like MAJOR artistic talent or anything. Everyone in my family does( and they range from chronically unstable to certifiably insane).

But, I mean that I'm ALMOST sure you'll find something you're especially good at it.

It doesn't have to be a "special skill".

In fact, crazy people are often the ones who possess very "special" skills, but they don't even have "regular" skills. They may have something close to a super power, but it's rendered useless because they don't have the processing ability to cope with daily life. You could say that about some people on the spectrum as well, but they still have a set of basic/survival skills that is more in tact than that of of your average schizophrenic.

Anyway, there are similarities in many areas but I personally feel like the average ASD individual will have an easier time making something of themselves than the average crazy person.


Ok well I guess I am more in line with the average crazy person then, which does not really bother me most my friends are more or less crazy as well.


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