Reasons why you don't like eye contact

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I do not know why. I can just see how beautiful you are when I look into someone's eyes. I can see the struggling child trying to fit these great big shoes and my heart just melts. I want to hug and kiss everybody. Even if they are doing something stupid or being mean to me, I can see their own fear and worry. I don't know why it happens but I just avoid eye contact because the feelings are just too overwhelming.

I don't make eye contact with passing strangers in the street because I don't want to be stared back at. I'd rather look away and pretend to be distracted by something, so if they are staring at me, I wouldn't have to know, and so I would be none the wiser. Being stared at makes me terribly uncomfortable and self-conscious. I have tried to smile or even say good morning or whatever, but I failed that a few times, by getting a ''do I know you??'' look, or sometimes they just glare at me or look away, as if to say it's socially inappropriate to greet someone you do not know. So that is out of the question, plus I'm too shy to greet strangers.

The only times I can make eye contact with strangers are when perhaps someone asks me something (like ''do you know what time the Chelmsford bus comes?'') or if they want to make small talk at a bus stop or in a shop, you know, stuff like that. Eye contact for me is as natural as breathing, but when it comes to passing strangers, I just can't do it. It becomes as scary as entering a lion's den.

It's weird how something I find so natural most of the time becomes extremely unnatural in certain situations.

Eye contact for me is often uncomfortable. And I haven't really noticed it much until the last few years.

It's not painful, just... awkward. It's mainly for people who I don't know. People who I know and are comfortable with, it's much easier.

If someone I know, and comfortable with becomes angry or disappointed with something I've done, then it once again is uncomfortable to look them in the eye. Maybe that has more to do with a sense of shame in those instances.

Wearing shades does not really make too much difference, though I've heard it works with some other individuals who have Aspergers.

I don't have as much problem when I'm talking to people in formal business settings for job interviews, or structured one on one conversations that seem to have a relevant purpose in my life.

Don't know what else I can add to this issue.

I find it uncomfortble, even when I talk with a close friend when I talk about something they'd often say why I'm looking around repelling their eyes. 'Cause when I do I'd often freeze into their eyes, I wonder how I look. However, with someone who doesn't seem to have a darting intimidating look like with a friend of mine who has crossed eyes, I can freely make eye contact without engulfing into its sight.
There were even times in my speech communications class that when I recite in front of the class I can hardly look into them so I finished my recitation perfectly staring on the dear floor. After which my Professor asked me if is there a cheat on the floor that kept me stooping and so they all got amused of me. I did it for the next time and finished my recitation well, but when we got dismissed our Professor called my name and asked "Loui are you asocial? I just wanna know why you are often stooping when you perform" I answered with an "Uh-" But was suddenly cut off when a he approached another student.

When it came into my knowledge that it wasn't sort of Normal to. The following performances I did my best and look at the people in front of me, gladly I delivered well which I often find myself succeeding in an individual performance than in a group. And having eye contact when public speaking isn't that hard when I'm well prepared or talking about a certain interest.

Though, there was one instance in my 1st year college when I was seated between my two friends (which happened to be my highschool classmates)while our Chemistry professor was having a lecture. I was deadpan not knowing what to do when they were endlessly discussing their own ideas related to the topic of our lecture, and I cannot understand why our Professor was staring at me and not at them. So when she was staring at me, I just got wide eyed and tried to reciprocate an eye contact. At the end of the class, we went to her office because she said she wanted to call the attention of those students not paying attention in her class because of being noisy. That time, while walking through the hallway to her office we passed by many of our highschool classmates and asked why we seemed bothered that time, they told us because we've been noisy in class so we had to go to the Professor's office which ironically made them shocked and proud of me because in highschool I was really taciturn and it's the first time we've been called to the office because of being noisy. So when we went there, she sked us why they were talking in her class, so they explained while shifting to me, she asks why I didn't tell them to stop even when she's already making a cue. But I told her that I didn't really get it what it meant with her intimidating stare. So we all got out her office forgiven and made things lighter by pretending we were powerpuff girls and she was mojojojo. Lol

-It sips my energy into my core like being hypnotized by a cold-blooded energy sucking vampire.

-I'd often lose my words due to its magnetic sparkle or dull sculpted eyes bringing me into their gateway of soul and emotions which challenge me to get into them and which often times transfers their negative energies.