Are you "okay" with having Asperger's?

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Nope.

I think Aspertastic424 was referring to his own experiences. I often say "you'd better" when I actually mean "I've learned that.."!

I'm always disappointed in my social deficits, but I can only weather on.

It bothers me most when people think I'm stupid, but I'm only different.

Being looked down on, or any attempt to appear superior raises my hackles. I am intelligent, I am not unobeservant and unaware, and I grasp so much more than people expect.

All I can say is..".FU doubters". You will see in time what I know now. !

It doesn't read like that.

I know the words don't say that but I also doubt Aspertastic424 was directing you or others to be okay with something against their respective wills, so I'm presuming they mean "I think you'd be better off if you became okay with it", which seems logical for something that we'll never be "cured" of.

This thread has been enlightening. Good testimonies, good info. I have more severe classic Kanners form of autism. So it's always been a major disability. It's always been such dominate thing in my life it's hard to say if I'm okay with it. I'm very used to it that's for sure.

It has an advantage over Aspergers in that there's no uncertain ground. No one for a second questions or doubts I am autistic. I don't have to try blending in, fitting in or masking. If I so much as add a "yeah" "really" or a laugh to a conversation taking place around me it's viewed as significant. So no pressure to participate or to participate the "right way".

When it comes to disability it's always helpful one's self to find the "silver lining" be able to joke about it, be glad it's not worse. But it does totally suck and I'd very gladly be rid of it.

I just wonder what it would be like if it was different, sometimes. That's all. How much easier (or difficult) life would have been, and how different things would have turned out.
I have accepted this diagnosis and continue to do so.

It has, I feel like I've levelled up in terms of knowing how we've variously dealt with it all. Thank you for sharing your experience, EzraS =]



I think that's true of everything that we can't reverse, to some degree. Thank you very much for your input Sonikku =]

At first I was ok with it, but as time has passed since my diagnosis I have reversed my position. Sure there are some things about it some might consider benefits. On good days I might even agree. But overall I don't want this, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I am considered HFA, with a high IQ which helps to balance some of the downsides, or so I tell myself. I can only imagine, as hard as it is for me, how much harder for those that aren't HFA or don't have a higher IQ to help balance the downsides?

All that said, if society truly accepted and accommodated autistics would being autistic stop being a burden? Is it possible that in the right kind of society it could be a gift?

I don't know, but I do know we are decades away at best from a society that would be that inclusive and accepting.

It works out for me because I am less emotional then most humans and I don't require human contact as much as others either.

Yeah very much this.



Good question. I think those of us who are high functioning/high IQ (myself included) have a much easier time convincing the world that it might be seen as a gift than those with few or none of the potential positives.

Thank you both very much for your considered responses =]

I've heard this before, but I'm high-functioning/high IQ and don't see any positives. For me, autism is anything but a gift.

Funnily enough I gathered that's how you see it without having read any posts from you, AJ. Maybe it's the pumped up angry avatar or the signature that reads that you're not okay with it, or the two times you've popped up in this thread purely to state your position to those who ARE okay with it?

Whatever led to my knowing it, I definitely, 100% know that you are not okay with it.

Thank you for sharing your position. I feel a tiny bit wiser because of it. =]

I agree with AJ. I am high functioning, and have some strengths related to autism such as attention to detail and awareness of minutia. I use these to compensate for my autism-related disadvantages. But this does not mean that autism is good; it holds me back.

For the sake of covering myself I'm going to say that I never asked if autism was good, just if people have come to find peace with it or not and maybe a little backstory as to how they came to that point.

I don't think that anyone who responded (including myself) thinks that autism is good. I think even the people most positive about it (again, myself included) just consider themselves lucky that it works for them. I'm not here to be a cheerleader for the condition and I don't think that the world should be autistic, but I am positive about how it affects me, and given the choice I would remain Aspie.

I was fortunate to have a high I.Q., a good memory and good organizational skills, but unfortunate because I spent a large part of my life alone due to my differences. However, I have been getting out more and have more friends now. There are still a lot of ordinary things I don't have, but I'm working on attaining them.