Anybody struggling to find their place here on WP?

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Oh, no. She's gonna sulk for days.


Yeah, can't say I'm into reading long threads. I'd rather read a book.

Not to mention I don't own a TV at home and I stopped reading news sites. Can't say I care much what goes on outside of the walls of my house or my office at work.

I thought of adding a slightly different quote attributed to Tallulah Bankhead, but chickened out for fear of it being taken as a dig. I don't think anyone wants to see an angry Rexi.

Hah - spare a thought for the life of a moderator...
We often have to plough through the long and tedious ones.

(takes a bow)
The check is in the post, BTW.

Well, if you spare the adult forum maybe it'll be much less. Most of these people don't even seem to form connections with each other here. the only thing making them strive to reply is anger and opposition.

I struggle understanding why no one seems to be like me, even on this site.

My impression is that what happens here though it looks much like what I'm saying and doing, people are unhappy with each other deep down, with the site and report an inability to fit in even if they've been around for a long time. This makes me feel like I'm among the very few if existent genuine person and only one who actually can form attachments with others. I don't understand why this happens on such a large scale. I don't want to admit that most autistic people are innately very unable to form bonds, living a life of misery, distance and lack of intimacy. I'm the opposite of that.

The issue is if topics are to be more restrained in the future it may not actually allow people to socialize healthily and normally because they're going off topic. It's like being forced into robotized patterns and I don't think that allows people to know each other and socialize productively.

Love is personal. There are many theories to what it is, but usually is observed when you prioritize the person without even trying. If that's lost, it can be easily observable that the person can cheat and mistreat and the only alternative is to leave. You may endear and like a person a lot but if it's not enough to help them and care about their feelings and opinions to the point of action and sacrifice, it's not love, heck, it's not even compassionate empathy.

Attachment levels, theoretically high ones are known to cause a heightened need for affection. That may include a positive bonding, but in your case I'm not sure if this applies if you feel empty inside. This usually comes with positive underlying feelings and excitedness to experience and explore more with partner.

Equally, a lack of affection may make you hunger for affection or need to prove or show your feelings to the person. That means that you feel empty even so towards hurt and also needing affection and bonding.

Some spectrum people have difficulty identifying their feelings, but I'm not sure if that's the equivalent of feeling them or perceiving them differently, or even describing them in ways that make them seem like less. It's called Alexithymia. 'The core characteristic of alexithymia is marked dysfunction in emotional awareness, social attachment, and interpersonal relation.'

It's a misconception that most of us on the spectrum lack emotion or the ability to show love, empathy and compassion to others.

I mostly just lurk, but I've always found your comments to be among the more insightful on this forum.

He's very good at identifying false data. Hope he never dies. He needs to find pupils to train.

It seems that I have already found at least two so far...



... and they did not even know it.

I have had an account for many years - I only started posting lately. I'm not a lurker - I only come here when I have a specific question to answer and I want to see what this community has to say about it. My son is HFA, was diagnosed in HS. I am diagnosed ADHD-I with some undiagnosed HFA behaviors. Such as the same ones he was diagnosed for. Such as "persistent preoccupation with parts of objects".

Hypothesis: I am different from Nathan. You are different from Nathan. It does not necessarily follow that you and I are the same. Now replace "Nathan" with "the average NT".

Enjoys Fnords writings , at a distance >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Xaviera Hollander was much more than a hooker......