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27 Jul 2010, 5:13 am

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It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it. :roll:

Wow, you're almost ready for an international whining competition.


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27 Jul 2010, 5:19 am

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It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it. :roll:

Wow, you're almost ready for an international whining competition.


Oh yeah? How would I do? Would I win?


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27 Jul 2010, 6:31 am

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wigglyspider wrote:
bullyh8ter wrote:
It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it. :roll:

Wow, you're almost ready for an international whining competition.


Oh yeah? How would I do? Would I win?

I think there are a few teenage girls who would be a challenge to beat, but you'd have a good chance. You'd just have to hope it's not "that time of the month" because that would give them an advantage.


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27 Jul 2010, 6:34 am

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It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it. :roll:

Wow, you're almost ready for an international whining competition.


Oh yeah? How would I do? Would I win?

I think there are a few teenage girls who would be a challenge to beat, but you'd have a good chance. You'd just have to hope it's not "that time of the month" because that would give them an advantage.


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27 Jul 2010, 7:04 am

this thread is so depressing. it started out as a troll and has devolved into us trying to humiliate one another. when i first joined, the 'diagnosed are superior to undiagnosed' thread was going. it died then this.

if i wanted this level of discussion and respect, i could get it on 4chan.



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27 Jul 2010, 8:06 pm

bullyh8ter wrote:
It's so hard to be a girl. Guys can't even imagine how hard it is. The opposite sex bends over backward to help you. You can be a career girl or not work and no one says a thing. You can hit a guy and he's screwed whether he hits you back or not. You can kiss girls at bars all the time and no one will care and they'll probably like the sight of it but if a guy accidentally touches another's butt, he's a homo without exception. You have charities to help you. You have many, many women only organizations and ladies nights. You have affirmative action to help you. You can get out of a test at school because it's that time of the month. You can stay at home with your parents as long as you want yet demand guys have their own place at 18 or you won't date them. You don't have to worry about being drafted. You don't very often have to worry about your kids being taken from you. Being a girl sucks. Us guys don't know how easy we have it. :roll:


I love when guys come in here claiming they know what its like to be a woman. I don't know what its like to be a man and never will.

If you would like to have blood and mucus pouring out of you with cramps to get out of a test, you're welcome to quite frankly. I can list a lot of the ways I think males have it better, but do I really no? No. I'm not one of them.



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27 Jul 2010, 8:34 pm

Wuffles wrote:
this thread is so depressing. it started out as a troll and has devolved into us trying to humiliate one another. when i first joined, the 'diagnosed are superior to undiagnosed' thread was going. it died then this.

if i wanted this level of discussion and respect, i could get it on 4chan.

As bad as this is, it isn't even close to the cesspit known as /b/.



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30 Jul 2010, 3:28 pm

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But if you're a pretty woman with aspergers, it just doesn't matter. In fact men might even like you MORE because of it.



What about the rest of us? "Pretty" by definition means more attractive than average.

Since you freely admit that looks are more important for women to have than men,
what about the MAJORITY of women who are AVERAGE and even UGLY, ON TOP of being Aspie?


Your fallacy is showing.


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30 Jul 2010, 9:14 pm

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I am a handsome, in shape man who is 33 years old. But because I have aspergers, I am alone.

But if you're a pretty woman with aspergers, it just doesn't matter. In fact men might even like you MORE because of it.

I find this to be so unfair, and so cruel, to the men who have aspergers. There is an old aspie joke that says "whats the difference between an aspie male and an aspie female? answer: the aspie female is married".

How do you cope with the fact that you'll be alone the rest of your life? I'm having a hard time accepting. EVERY WOMAN treats me like I'm the plauge' and I'm so sick of it. They approach me because of my looks, flirt a little, then realize "oh hes different, I dont like him anymore".

I dont even try anymore. Its such a losing battle, and in the end it just brings more and more pain.

You read these websites on how to pick up girls. You have to be the fuggin' "alpha male" b.s. because God forbid you are like me, women just wont like you.

I really have contemplated suicide over this. I'm sick of being alone. Here I am a handsome in shape caring guy, and Im all alone. This world is so fugged up. I dont even want to live anymore. I cant wait for death.


In my case that is incorrect. Men treat me like the plague. (*and I strongly suspect I'll spend the rest of my life alone)



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31 Jul 2010, 12:49 am

I am in a good relationship with a guy who is great with me, is the same as me with respect to the social stuff.He is great with computers, hates crowds and loud noises, likes to be at home alot, and I spend alot of time at his place.. He is an immigrant from El Salvador. I am learning how to speak Spanish slowly. He does not have that great of coordination...my coordination is better than his actually...


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31 Jul 2010, 12:55 am

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I am a handsome, in shape man who is 33 years old. But because I have aspergers, I am alone.

But if you're a pretty woman with aspergers, it just doesn't matter. In fact men might even like you MORE because of it.

I find this to be so unfair, and so cruel, to the men who have aspergers. There is an old aspie joke that says "whats the difference between an aspie male and an aspie female? answer: the aspie female is married".

How do you cope with the fact that you'll be alone the rest of your life? I'm having a hard time accepting. EVERY WOMAN treats me like I'm the plauge' and I'm so sick of it. They approach me because of my looks, flirt a little, then realize "oh hes different, I dont like him anymore".

I dont even try anymore. Its such a losing battle, and in the end it just brings more and more pain.

You read these websites on how to pick up girls. You have to be the fuggin' "alpha male" b.s. because God forbid you are like me, women just wont like you.

I really have contemplated suicide over this. I'm sick of being alone. Here I am a handsome in shape caring guy, and Im all alone. This world is so fugged up. I dont even want to live anymore. I cant wait for death.


Dude, I wouldn't jump to thinking Autistic women have it easier; my mom sure as hell didn't. Her lifelong inner-struggle between being herself and trying to be "normal" destroyed her, and took her from us 7 years ago. She was 54...yeah, that's it; just 54.

Wanna hear the two big crushing blows of it?

1. She died one day before my Dad's birthday.

2. She died just 7 months....before their 25th Wedding Anniversary.



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31 Jul 2010, 4:09 am

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I am a handsome, in shape man who is 33 years old. But because I have aspergers, I am alone.

But if you're a pretty woman with aspergers, it just doesn't matter. In fact men might even like you MORE because of it.

I find this to be so unfair, and so cruel, to the men who have aspergers. There is an old aspie joke that says "whats the difference between an aspie male and an aspie female? answer: the aspie female is married".

How do you cope with the fact that you'll be alone the rest of your life? I'm having a hard time accepting. EVERY WOMAN treats me like I'm the plauge' and I'm so sick of it. They approach me because of my looks, flirt a little, then realize "oh hes different, I dont like him anymore".

I dont even try anymore. Its such a losing battle, and in the end it just brings more and more pain.

You read these websites on how to pick up girls. You have to be the fuggin' "alpha male" b.s. because God forbid you are like me, women just wont like you.

I really have contemplated suicide over this. I'm sick of being alone. Here I am a handsome in shape caring guy, and Im all alone. This world is so fugged up. I dont even want to live anymore. I cant wait for death.


How unusual to find such a negatively worded post on WP :!:

You seem to have some self-esteem issues, which would perhaps benefit from professional guidance (rather than an internet message board)

Glad you at least didn't turn your self-pity post into a sweeping generalization about male and female Aspies; shows great strength of character on your part.

Very amuzing :arrow:


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31 Jul 2010, 4:29 am

dude, it's also worth noting:

there's an old mentality that you can't actually be looking for someone when you find the right one.

It's kinda true; I stopped looking for the right one just before I found her.

The best possible advice I can offer you is this: be yourself. Do what you normally do.

the right one will share your values, and will be drawn to you, as you will be to her.

Scary enough, I had your very mentality just over 10 years ago. I was there, good sir.

One thing that makes dating harder for us is that we already seem desperate when trying to appeal to the social world, so when we're trying to appeal to the opposite sex we seem even moreso; when we withdraw, they're just glad to be rid of us.

It's a difficult battle, and I won't pretend it isn't.

Don't give up hope though, and think killing yourself will solve your problem of finding the right one.

As Elyce Keaton once said on an episode of Family Ties, the reason we regard love so highly is because finding that right one is such a rare and beautiful thing.



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31 Jul 2010, 8:43 am

Since you are (by your own words) such a disaster zone when it comes women, how can you possibly make any comment on what IS or IS NOT an 'issue' for them when it comes to ANYTHING (including Asperger's) :? :arrow:


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31 Jul 2010, 5:02 pm

Johnnycomelately topic

I read all the responses...and no one is backing up Johnny. We are a tough bunch.

He reads like a guy who has had a tough time dating. Some people try too hard.

I have met guys like this...unrealistic ideas of relationships. These take a long time to develop. This might take years. Patience.

And Johnny is not here at the moment. Has he found someone? Is he pursing a relationship as we speak? I hope the next time he posts things are better for him, because with a defeatist attitude, love may be a distant dream.


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