How do Asperger people party?

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Yeah I don't party in the conventional sense and tend to avoid parties that I know are going to be big, or when I know there will be a lot of people there that don't know and very few that I do.

Don't like parties involving alcohol can't stand people getting pointlessly and mindlessly drunk. I'll go to small parties (of close friends and family) that have a purpose or theme (ie. board games, movie nights). Even then there are still plenty of awkward social moments however at least there's no hiding in the corner, trying to work out how toget out of really boring conversations I have no interest in, and trying not to cling to the one and only person I know there.....

And definitely prefer to hang out with people's pets than people....I don't know sometimes I think I just don't like people all that much

I have come to believe that sleeping is my equivalent of partying. Whenever I say something to the effect to "time to party!! !", I end up sleeping instead of partying.

In the unlikely event that I get invited to an actual party, if there is loud music I communicate with people by writing on a piece of paper. I think this might be weird.

I've never been to a party (except relatives' birthday parties and such), what do people even do in those? Is it just drinking, dancing and talking to each other? It doesn't sound too interesting.

Depends on how well I'm prepared, or how comfortable I am in the situation.

There are usually "a lot" of uncomfortable pauses

I never knew until 5 years ago that I looked at partying in a different way than anyone else/ Also because I kenw I liked boys, I didn't bother anymore looking for them in straight discos, that was before I even entered a gay bar in my life. So, i exelled in dancing, and took the discotheque literally for a place where you went to to dance. But of course boys only danced to please the girl they were after...so I looked down on then and siad to myself:you are a dancer, and people asked me if I had been to dancing schools, other jealous boys would try to procoke or humiliate me by throwing coins on the floor in front of my feet. Basically I always danced with myself ( I like that song) or with my younger sister (they thought we were a couple). And so when I was 17 and wnet to a gay disco for the first time, I felt the same. They were all chatting each other up, and I would not know how to do that, I also had a 10 year lasting acne problem in my face, which didn't help and people would not fancy me.

And when i go to a bar on my own, if ever, especially abroad, i still feel like if I have no room to dance on my own or don't have the music I like to dance to, I don't go. i can't get into the idea to go to a bar and sit all evening and drink for the drinking. I don't touch any alcohol anymore (my travel companion always enticed me drinking pisco or wine wiht her, but she's gone home, and I am on my own again, alone, my own company and I don't see the need to go out on my own and drink...that's all you can do. The same for singing, Which I am good at and love, but people go to karaoke just to flirt with one another, not for the singing..Ihate that).

I tend to avoid parties like smallpox. Not that I have any opportunites to go to them even if I wanted to, but that suits me just fine.

I'm not into parties getting drunk, loud music and being stuck with heaps of people in one room the noise for one sends me nuts and I fell so uncomfortable with alot people around me I rather go watch a movie, play video games or watch Tv. I was forced to goto parties with friends which I did not like at all and friends always thought I was boring and they would come over my place with beer and start getting drunk and turning up my stereo and causing trouble which I did not like. Now that I have new friends all of my friends have AS the same as me and when all of us get togeather we just watch documentries on ships, archology Time Team, airplanes, astronomy, David Attenbourough, or read books on ships, airplanes, Insects, Astronomy or Comics Dc or Marvel comics, play video games such as Halo 4, Assassins Creed 3, Pacman, Space Invaders, Frogger, Asteriods, Sonic, Mario and Donkey Kong, watch movies mostly The Avengers, Iron Man, Captain America, Batman, Spiderman, Wolverine, X-men, The Hulk, Resident Evil, Predator and Alien, Teminator, 80s movies Ghostbusters, Gremlins, E.T. Or watch Tv series such as Star Trek, The Walking Dead, Battlestar Gallatica, Airwolf and Red vrs Blue Halo we all just get a pizza and talk about our interests and hobbies.

How I like to party?

One word: multiplayer

If it is a party with food, I go with my man and son and we all eat a lot, and when we've had enough we leave.
If there is no food, we do not go.

i just hosted my anniversary party last week.
i had my friend for company
but i had arranged for a compere who hosted games
that way it was not boring and people barely got time
to indulge in small talk

I can take about 30mins before my head starts hurting and people start speaking in tongues.
That's when I just nod my head and say yes to everything. It seems to work.

I usually avoid unless there's a real activity to participate in or I have to visit family.

why can't we upload pics on the wrong planet forum?

That´s a good question. Well, to be honest, I don´t know how we all party, you´d have to ask one by one to learn some statistic. However, I can tell you how I party - if I can call it like that, because I really don´t party the same way like other people. I have enormous problmes to lead a social conversation. From time to time, I manage to catch up with the rest of the partygoers. I usually make some jokes or comments about the topic I am able to understand, but when they start talking (for me) "in riddles", about nothing - you know, the (in)famous "trast talk" - I am completely lost. I try to get back to the converstation, but I say something silly and they look at me like I was an idiot, so I withdraw and just listen. But then, they get feed up with my presence and say: "Why don´t you say something?" And from then on, the intervals in which they look back at me start to shorten, like if they were giving me signals like: "Go away, we don´t want you here." So I excuse myelf, get up, make circles around the room, then I find some other group, and there I might catch up. They kind of like my humour, but then the group shatters and everybody wants to dance or to go home. And I am alone again. So I go the the bartender and order myself a drink, I wait there for like 15 minutes, the I go circling around the room again in the desperate need to find someone who would like to talk to me. I occasionally find somebody who likes to see me, but our eager and welcomed talk becomes awkward ater some time, and then I excuse myself and go shortly dancing. And then i repeat the whole ritual again. In general, I learnt how to like these social occasions, but I start quickly feeling that I am not welcome ther, so I always leave early. In short, we don´t have the same hobbies or similar personalities, so we also have nothing to talk about It´s so sad.It always makes me feel like a social idiot.

Does bashing out a report/doing research while listening to loud industrial music (through headphones if I'm in a location where using speakers would not be appropriate) and munching on tacos count? If so, that's my definition of a party.