The Truth (?) behind TOM and lack of empathy...
Jannisy that is seriously interesting stuff. I'm not going to get into religion/belief systems, but to to let you know I spent a few months going through the penrose/hameroff stuff looking for a hard model of
cognitive/neuro- science , to incorpotate the softer sicial science stuff into and some of this definitely borders into buddhist belief sytems, and I really like their approach. I am not a religious person at all but to balance this, the methodist ex hells angel ( metioned int he top of the article), I think is Brian Greenaway, another meme from back then. Now Brian is one of the toughest loving people you could ever meet, full of compassion and honesty.- so it's not a either or, just a route.
That ok-ness or not was quite a meme in the 70's. I remember those books well. As a life philosophy, I prefer this:
http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?o ... 3&Itemid=0
I'm not ok, you're not ok, and that's ok.
Here's my "Autistic" version:
I'm Okay, So Knock it Off!
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Careful with that stuff. Who's "we?"
A lot of Autistics are not that blessed. I don't think being able to detect hypocrisy actually has much to do with intelligence at all.
I know even I don't have to think much to know hypocrisy when I see it.
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I feel more empathetic the less involved I am which sounds strange. The less involved I am, the less stress and I am able to connect with myself. There's nothing blocking it. Isolation isn't always a bad thing.
When one connects with their self, it's a sign they have empathy for themselves. I'm convinced there are people living in the woods that have empathy for themselves as well as the animals in nature and that is enough for what they experience as contentment. Most people can't do it, but there are some that can.
I'm also convinced that a person can be surrounded by people that care, and completely lose their feelings of empathy because of stress. And in your case too many people could certainly be a cause of stress, if it overwhelms you.
I don't see anything strange about what you are saying. In my view it sounds like you require solitude instead of isolation. When I think of isolated, I think of someone that doesn't connect with people, lives alone, and feels isolated, but that's just my personal opinion of the word. It sounds like you have a mix that works for you; that's great.
Some might consider it strange that solitude is required to find empathy and understanding of others. Seems almost ironic.
A lot of times, when someone gets angry, they leave for a while and return with a brand new outlook on the situation. Might even regret they felt angered in the first place. It's a similar situation. That time alone - seperated - is needed to regain balance and to access parts of the psyche containing complex insights. Guess empathy can be thought of as insight of sorts. It isn't an emotion, exactly.
People confuse solitude and isolation, including me. So true, they are too different things. One seems forced, the other voluntary. Having no friends is thought of as being isolation and is considered negative and unhealthy. People do not always realize solitude can be a lifestyle choice and is not always a sorrowful existence. Being alone doesn't automatically mean isolation.
Some of the best men and women I knew couldn't fill in a form. I didn't find them frustrating. I find the
people with intelligence who misuse thier gift frustrating, and even then I have to sepatate intention from the non-intentional. I don't think the people who we are discussing here, the majority of them intentionally misuse, they have never been challenged by us directly before, so we don't know. Until we see their full response I want to reserve that evaluation.
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Hmm. I do remember using the phrase "entire spectrum," but can't recall exactly what it was in reference to. This has been such a long conversation, with so many of you, it's getting harder to keep track of what I said about what, which parts were meant as flat statements, and which were intended as conjecture. Let me see if I can find it.
Here is the only place in the thread that I used the phrase "entire spectrum"
In that statement I WAS Including Kanner's and all forms of Autism. Yes, I do think they are all disabilities, however what differs is HOW I define the term, as opposed to how the medical field might, or the Government.
And that is part of the difficulty associated with the rest of this post. What constitutes a disability can be very subjective.
Actually, that's exactly what you said, in so many words.
Bolding and capitalization added to point it out. My intention isn't to nit pick, just to help clarify the point. I think what you meant to do at this point, in your last post clarifying this, is to say that what you actually said wasn't what you meant. I'm sure I've probably done it myself somewhere in this thread.
The only reason I pointed that out is because there are a lot of people who think they are qualified for disability by simple virtue of the fact that they are diagnosed ASD. I just wanted to be sure those who do think so and read this, are properly informed.
This is why what the laws actually say and mean can become so confusing. That site, while it does appear to contain the entire text of the regulation, also contains a great deal of commentary that is not part of the regulation. The actual official electronic version, with nothing but the regulation itself can be found here: http://ecfr.gpoaccess.gov/cgi/t/text/te ... 29;cc=ecfr
On that page, you will find only one reference to Autism, and it is used only as an example along with some other disorders. It's not really a list meant to be taken as a complete and all inclusive "list of included disorders."
As the first section of the regulation itself states:
In other words, neither the ADA nor Title 29 Part 1630 actually define or list what does or does not qualify for a disability.
Examples are given, and one of them is ASD, however nowhere in either document are any clear lists given of disorders that are "automatically" disabilities. Downs Syndrome isn't even mentioned. Think about that. I don't think anyone would argue that Downs Syndrome is a disability.
The purpose behind both the law and the regulation was never to "define" disability. That has always been left up to the medical field.
EDIT: Sorry, that's wrong. "Define" is not the right word. They have defined the term, but the definition is about ability vs. inability, not about what qualifies to be called a disability. It should read:
"The purpose behind both the law and the regulation was never to provide lists of specific conditions that automatically qualify as disabilities."
My mistake on the link, I had that more general webpage open on my desktop along with the official website and copied the link to the general information page, but the quotes I provided that stated that virtually all assessments of impairments including autism should meet the definition of disability under the ADA, were from the same exact link you provided from the official regulation. Thanks for bringing that to my attention; I will correct the link.
I'm pretty sure we do generally agree on this, but you may still be misunderstanding my wording on this. I'm not stating that the ADA act automatically covers individuals with Autism as a disability. Here is my original quote again:
I'm just stating here that under the American's with Disabilities act all ASD's fit the legal definition of a disability that impair an individual in a major area of functioning in life; the required criteria for Autism is essentially the same as the required criteria to meet the definition of disability under the ADA.
My intent wasn't to indicate that all individuals with Autism are automatically covered under the ADA, they do have to be assessed individually when they invoke their rights under the ADA, but the new legal regulations that enforce the ADA clearly state that Autism is an impairment among others that in virtually all cases should meet the legal definition of a disability under the ADA.
The reason down's syndrome is not included in the examples, is because everyone understands that down's syndrome is an impairment that substantially impacts major life activities. It's only a matter of assessing whether or not someone has the impairments of Down syndrome to meet coverage.
And, just to clarify again, the ADA has nothing to do with financial assistance, Social Security Disability, or Social Security Supplemental income. Those covered under the ADA can invoke the protection from the act in school or the workplace for reasonable accommodations and to be protected from discrimination based on disability.
You mentioned in the last post that some people think they automatically qualify for disability with that have an ASD, I may be wrong but I think you may be referring to the assumption that some people think they may be automatically qualified for financial assistance from the government through SSDI or SSI. I wouldn't want anyone to infer that from my post.
If anyone is interested in what rights the ADA act provides for those that are covered by it, te ADA website ADA.gov provides more information. And the Equal Employment Opportunity Commision that provides the regulations to enforce the ADA provides more details on what we have been discussing here; here is a link to the EEOC site that provides frequently asked questions and answers for the new ammendment. The question regarding what we have been discussing here is #19 in the link:
http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/regulations/ada_qa_final_rule.cfm
Yes. The regulations identify examples of specific impairments that should easily be concluded to be disabilities and examples of major life activities (including major bodily functions) that the impairments substantially limit. The impairments include: deafness, blindness, intellectual disability (formerly known as mental retardation), partially or completely missing limbs, mobility impairments requiring use of a wheelchair, autism, cancer, cerebral palsy, diabetes, epilepsy, HIV infection, multiple sclerosis, muscular dystrophy, major depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and schizophrenia. [Section 1630.2(j)(3)]
This may be the clearest answer to the question, since it's coming directly from the organization that enforces the rules pertaining to the ADA, and isn't as confusing as the law itself can be when one tries to interpret it.
Thank you for engaging in this tangent with me, I hope I have provided better clarification this time, as to what my intended meaning was in my statement.
I think it is good news for people with autism that want a better opportunity for success in the workplace.
When you're interacting with an autistic person, do you instinctively know how they're feeling?
If so, you don't lack empathy - you just speak a different language.
No, actually psychopathy and autism-spectrum seem to be completely unrelated. There are autistics who are also psychopaths, they seem to be about as common among autistics as non-autistic psychopaths are in the general population.
Psychopaths have an impairment in the affective aspect of empathy. When they realize someone else is unhappy, the thought doesn't upset them. There's a classic test that psychopaths tend to fail called the moral-conventional distinction. It goes like this:
Jimmy's school has a rule that you have to raise your hand before talking. Jimmy blurts out the answer without raising his hand. Did he do something wrong? (Correct answer is yes, most psychopaths get it right.)
What if Jimmy's school didn't have that rule? Would it still be wrong for Jimmy to talk without raising his hand? (Correct answer is no, most psychopaths get it right.)
Jimmy's school also has a rule that you're not allowed to hit your classmates. Jimmy punches another boy in his class. Did he do something wrong? (Correct answer is yes, most psychopaths get it right.)
What if Jimmy's school didn't have that rule? Would it still be wrong for Jimmy to hit his classmates? (Correct answer is yes, most psychopaths say no.)
Psychopathy appears to be genetic - identical twins have a higher concordance rate on psychopathic traits than fraternal twins. Signs of psychopathy can be detected in a kid as young as 7, and the condition seems to lifelong. Clinicians generally consider it untreatable.
Yeah, I know. I like horror stories and don't find them scary at all, unless animals are harmed in the story. It really upsets me.
Oh, yeah. I think many psychologists forget that autistic traits might lead to misunderstanding the question being asked. For example, one study I read asked autistic kids to define emotion words like 'anger' 'sadness' etc. One of the differences they found was that many autistic kids described the facial expressions associated with the emotions, while none of the NT kids did. My theory is that the autistics who did that had gone through social skills training, and misunderstood the question as another attempt to test their knowledge of facial expressions.
I feel empathy for other autistics and for cats. It's not telepathic. I'm unconsciously picking up cues about how they feel and my brain tells me what it's figured out by giving me an 'echo' of their feeling, similar to how I feel when I remember a time I felt a certain way.
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/152278/so ... tion_task/
The point of it is to watch it and describe the action using as many social elements as come to mind.
Autistic people (regardless of diagnosis) tend to use approximately 1/4 of the social elements as NTs, at least on average. Some use more, some use less, and some use practically none.
OK, my description:
The big triangle goes into some kind of building. Then a circle and small triangle come. For some reason the big triangle takes exception to the small triangle and starts attacking him, meanwhile the circle sneaks into the building. Then the big triangle goes back into the building and the circle starts dancing around in excitement. The small triangle opens the door and the big triangle pushes the circle outside. The big triangle comes out and starts chasing them in circles, then heads back into the building. The other two leave, and then for no apparent reason the big triangle destroys the building.
I didn't have a clue how different they were from me. I knew I was different, but I thought it was just being smarter plus having suffered trauma as a kid. I remember feeling angst wondering if I'd have to choose between either abusing my child or having my child be a bully. I also fantasized about turning into a dog and mauling one of my bullies so he'd have a disability and get bullied, and turn good as a result.
That's the social model of disability right there.
How about this:
HFA = people overestimate your abilities
LFA = people underestimate your abilities
Yeah, I think when all is said and done, we were pretty much in agreement on the whole thing to begin with. Can't remember how it evolved exactly, but if I recollect correctly I believe it began with talking about disability, as in whether or not ASD's are or are not disabilities.
I think i an safely say we agree on these points:
In REALITY they are.
Legally, they must be considered disabilities in the workplace.
Legally, they may be considered disabilities for purposes of financial help from the Government, but determining whether they are is dependent on a medical determination of quality of life and physical and mental function. Basically, "If the Government believes you can get a job, you don't get disability."
That last point I do think most of us here understand, but there are some who've never looked into it that do think it's simpler than that, as in, "ASD = Disability" in all situations, which of course, isn't true.
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people with intelligence who misuse thier gift frustrating, and even then I have to sepatate intention from the non-intentional. I don't think the people who we are discussing here, the majority of them intentionally misuse, they have never been challenged by us directly before, so we don't know. Until we see their full response I want to reserve that evaluation.
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What are you referring to?
Sorry I should clarify that : I don't think the majority of people who have the level of intelligence that could be misused, ie willfully cause harm, somtimes significant harm to others , when an alternative solution exists, would knowingly choose to do harm, which I define as misuse.