Is not finding babies cute an Aspie trait?

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I didn't find babies cute naturally. Not until I had my own children. I think this is one of those learned things as well. It took me a few months to fall in love with each new baby. Actually it took me about a year before I stopped thinking my second baby was ugly. I remember being shocked to find out that my husband loved our new baby from day 1. I also had a hard time believing that my mom loved me from day 1. Gee she's always so critical with me. Now that with experience and realistic expectations I find many babies very cute.

LOL no! I mean men feeling nurturing feelings towards baby non-human animals that they don't know. Such as a random puppy.

A-ha! See, my psych prof would agree with this phenomenon: She explained that parents do indeed learn to love their children, that you aren't born thinking babies are cute; you learn it when you have a baby (or live with a baby) and your hormones switch on. Don't you dare think that not falling in love right away makes you a bad mom; all you have to do for the child to be happy is to take care of the child's needs, spend time with it, have contact with it. No need to think it's cute for that to take place. You just have to want to spend time with the kid.

And, anyway, most newborns are scrunchy-faced little gnome-looking things. It's the tiny little fingers I find cute!

I saw a pigeon get run over by a car today and it broke my heart ,I go for the underdog like the pigeon the chicken, or the pig, (unlike most missery burger eating people it seems)

Why should the cute puppy get more consideration than the cage living pig, living in it's own $%&T ?

I prefer the pig anyway far cleaner (the muslims are right when it comes to dogs at least)

I think they are also right on the pork eating thing.

what is "%^$"? i assume it is milk. i know aussie bloke. i am a hypocrite. if cows that are milking cows are not milked they die because their udders explode. i am aware that humans have caused that genetic reality in breeding cows that always lactate. what is worse is that their calves that they are lactating for are taken to market and slaughtered to produce veal. they are called bobby calves. and then humans suckle the milk intended for them.

god i know how it is seriously evil what humans do. but if i died tomorrow and my demand was no longer active, i do not think it would change anything in the big picture.

if everyone decided to relinquish meat and milk and eggs etc, then i would have extreme conscience problems about having cows slaughtered for only me. how many people can be convinced that it is very wrong? not many. people like their steaks and their eggs and their chicken and milk so much, and there are millions of them who think the same way, and they will always create a massive demand for those products.

if everyone gave up eating meat, then i would too (unless i would die from lack of iron and calcium).
iron and calcium can be manufactured in pills, so i guess it is not necessary to eat animal products.

the only thing that can be eaten without a bad conscience is fruit. even vegetables are nutrient storehouses for the plant's seeds that produced them. they place the germ of their reproduction inside the vegetable which provides sustenance for the germination of their seed to produce offspring.

eating a potato stops a new potato plant from growing. potato plants are also living beings.

fruit on the other hand is offered by the plant so as it will be eaten and the seeds dispersed in the excrement of the animals who eat it.

can you live only on fruit?

tell me what diet i should follow that will not make me sick please?

all animals are born into a dangerous existence except for humans that have massive intelligence in comparison.

maybe intelligence is evil? maybe it devours many innocent resources to prevail.

humans are so prevalent in the world that they are devouring nature at an alarming rate.

a few months ago i was driving toward bondi, and i saw a pigeon just sitting on the road with no apparent worry. i knew it was sick because it was sitting very flat on the ground, and i saw a few cars drive right over it. they did not kill the pigeon because the cars undercarriages did not collide with the pigeon, but i thought that it was a very serious thing for the drivers of the cars to just roll over the pigeon without concern.


i did a u turn at the first available opportunity, and when i got back to the pigeon, it was flattened onto the road. i could not understand why people did not stop their cars to help the pigeon. i guess that everyone thought that their timely arrival at their destination was more important than an innocent pigeon's life, and so they just drove over it.

god!

Well that is the human way , I saw on the footpath recently a pigeon who was on it's last gasp of life and people just walked past without a care, I felt kinda terrible I ended it's life with a brick to it's head, though I can be forgiven I suppose I had one taken to my head to (well motorbike actually) so wasn't in a stable state , not that it would have made a difference I am doubtful it would have made it to the vets anyways.

Their are enough people who care for the cute dogie woggie or get on the " safe the whale" bandawagon, so I prefer to root for the underdog,

Not sure if that's an aspie thing?

Go pigeon!

Your all right you don't like winks would a smile be ok if you feel you must eat meat at least eat high up the food chain (like whale ) being serious here.

I'll tell you what you get really creative when you stop eating animal products , allways making new recipes in my head, doesn't allways work out sadly made a coconut "chessecake " with a pandan topping recently, the base was made up of ground up nuts, sadly it was a watery mess the filling didn't set why did the agar not work ? (veg gelatine)

I'll have to do a google it , it must work as the asians use it in desserts to set stuff.

Looked really asian (ie) with that green topping I love asian desserts their so much "fun" with all those crazy colours and textures

I've never understood why people find newborn babies cute. They look like shriveled up old people.

I'd say it's definitely not an aspie trait. I adore babies. I have spent my entire adult life teaching parenting and child development as well as operating a daycare. Myy daughter adores children (also Aspie) and she has a beautiful 4 year old who thinks anything "baby" (this can mean things that are miniature) is the most wonderful thing ever.

I was purposefully avoiding this thread but it has gone on for 10 pages now. What is it with the "do you think *insert random thought here* is an aspie trait?" kind of questions? I don't get it.

I personally do not find babies cute. Even when I had my own. Interesting, but not cute. Toddlers and pre-school age are cute. But not babies. There. My opinion, which is as valid as anyone else's and just as worthless.

I think it's definitely an Aspie trait. I find babies interesting in a psychological sense but if you put me in front of a newborn infant I feel extremely uncomfortable, especially holding one. My profession is an ECE so I'm used to older babies and toddlers but I still feel a bit uncomfortable around tiny, newborn infants. I especially don't like holding them, I think it has something to do with not knowing how to show my emotions as well as being afraid that I'll hurt it because of how small they are. Mind you, being an ECE has definitely helped me open up more around younger children.

Babies really weird me out when they're younger than around 1 1/2 or 2. They start to get interesting when their personality starts to come out.

I've always found babies, infants and toddlers repulsive; and not just because of the dirty diaper aspect. Even when I was a child I felt this way. If I saw a picture of a baby with food still on their mouth or if my mom was babysitting and I saw food on the baby's mouth, I would feel physicaly sick. I never wanted to hold people's babies but I was often forced to becuase they needed a picture for the photo album. I eventualy started telling people that I would just drop it and they would back off. I never wanted to play with dolls, espicaly baby dolls. I was breifly intrested in Barbie for a while, but only for her furniture and pets. I had no idea how I was supposed to play with Barbie. I made up my mind when I was four years old that I never wanted to get married, let alone have children. I always found snakes, lizards, insects and other invertebrates a billion times cuter than human children. People are always telling me how cute they think my bearded dragon is, but I wonder if they really mean it.

@lostgirl1986
What is an ECE?

They're alright sometimes. I just don't know how to interact with them at all.