zemanski wrote:
To get back to Baron-Cohen,
"Girls with a higher than average number level of autistic traits tend to have male-typical interests, showing a preference for systems over emotions. They prefer not to socialise with typical girls because they have different interests, and because typical girls on average have more advanced social skills. Both of these factors may lead girls with a higher number of autistic traits to socialize with boys, to believe they have a boy's mind in a girl's body, and to attribute their unhappiness to being a girl."
It sounds very like the argument of a homophobic parent saying to a young heterosexual male that he can't see his best friend because he's gay - Something might rub off! He might end up gay too if he socialises with gays! He'll get a warped sense of what's "normal" and think it's ok to "experiment"!
Hardly the standard of comment you expect from an eminent scientist is it?
I think you are understanding this the wrong way round
He is hypothesising that due to the autism making these females' brains more systemising than emotional/empathising, they are naturally drawn more to male than female friendships, as they have more in common with the males (due to males usually having brains that are more systemising than emotional/empathising) Also, as females are usually more emotional/empathising than systemising, they have better social skills and often reject autistic females for not being the same. So often there's only males as a choice to find friends among - this has certainly been the case for me - I was rejected by other females and more often than not boyfriends had to double up as a friend as well.
So it's not a case of the maleness 'rubbing off on' these females, it's the fact that due to the autism the females already have a systemising type brain, which is what males are more likely to have, hence they tend to have more in common with males than females.
Obviously the degree to which this happens would vary from person to person.
Has your son ever done the AQ test?