Does Our Depression Come From Feeling Unloved / Shame ?

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Calm down. I already wrote that I forgive you for that misunderstanding. So, there is no need to keep going on about that. I think, that is a closed case.

Please, understand that I do not know you personally, apart from this fact, it is not easy to know someone´s else intentions. What I am trying to say with this is: I did not know what your intentions were. That is why I wanted to prevent something bad from happening. I believe you, because what you write seems genuine, and there is evidence. As previously written, perhaps I could have handled better myself as well. That is the reason, I offered an apology as well: to be on good terms from both sides. I am sorry that I judged wrongly.

I do not know which emotion you might consider as "neutral"....By the way, I am not upset; I have just found this whole thing to be resolved. This is why it is a closed case. There is nothing wrong with rambling really, because it causes no harm. You do not need to keep apologising. I understand what you wrote.

I think so... Depression can come from deep feelings of rejection / humiliation. I do find conventional therapy to be a disconnected 'bubble' from daily existence. It does not help the feeling of ostracism / aloneness when faced with daily life struggles. Therapists (at least in my personal experience) don't seem to advocate or intervene, even when a little involvement from the therapist would prove immensely helpful, particularly in situations where a crisis could be averted if the therapist could just explain where we are coming from. But instead, they only instruct us on how to 'think things are not so bad' and let us fend for ourselves, our crumbling relationships / situations.

Therapy (personal experience)... is little more than a brief respite from the horrors of daily life. My depression won't resolve if I continue to feel alone after the therapy session is over, only armed with a few words of advice on how to deal with life. I like my therapist, but it is not enough for life's overwhelming problems. A few generic words of wisdom will not serve as a buffer against the deep pain of being alone. And to utter this at all, could appear as though one is unwilling to follow advice or to get help.

Shame for me.