I'm 13 and have a question about Autism

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it is like a pre-k but homeschool there are five other kids they meet at the library and It is a special ed theacher that all the parents pay for

Thank you and he loves his tractors

Maybe he will become adept at farming. It seems like pretty structured work.

Today we have to go clean horse stalls and give the horses a bath to get them ready to go practices team roping. it will be the first time JD has been around the horses I hope it goes well and he likes them maybe he will even want to ride one. I'm kinda worried he will either meltdown when he gets close to them or just hate it. Mom is taking his tractors and the Ipad and said we would just let him do what he wants. I worry about the new smells because I have read so much about smells setting off meltdowns plus big animals scare some kids.it's been like 8 weeks since she got married and mom said it is time to combine our old life with the new life. Hope it works any advice on how to let JD meet Buck (my horse) I was going to ask last night but WP stopped working again

Approach the horse slowly I suppose. Autistic kids usually have a way with animals so it probably won't be a problem. The horse snorting if that happens might startle him. Also he might be bothered by the smell of the stalls so take him slowly into that area also. I've been on horse rides with other autistic kids when I was little and I don't remember any kids panicking or having meltdowns. There's actually horse therapy for autistic and special needs kids.

^ Makes sense to me but I don't know much about horses. If they get feisty when having a bath then maybe keep him away from that, he might think they are getting hurt.

Many Autistic people are very close to horses and horses tend to be very good with us, especially children. I think it will go well. If the horses are being bathed correctly, they should be fine. Be very careful around the face. Also be very careful around their butts and privates. These areas can be very sensitive and if people are not careful in those areas the horse can get scared. IF you are going to do it with people who know how and who will help you and teach you, both of you should be fine. I am willing to bet that JD will do great.

I have been riding since I was two. we have cows and I team rope just have not been able to since mom got married so JD had never been around them We still have the ranch we had when my dad was alive. we moved in with my stepdad after they married my stepdad didn't want to live in the house my mom and real dad lived in. I'm just worried how JD would feel

He did get we just let him play with his tractors and after a while, he came to the wash rack and watched than just looked around he even rode with me in the arena but he liked the cows better I think then it was back to the tractors i

I took and kind of combined what everyone said and it went well

Oh cool, so you are a horseman. That is awesome. I don't get to ride as much as I would love to. It's so awesome that you have a ranch.

We just don't live there now but still, have the horses and cows I love to ride horses and rope and skateboard kind of a weird combination JD did really good He even rode with me for about 15 mins I hope my stepdad will change his mind and we can move back on the ranch

I am so glad that JD enjoyed himself. I really hope that you can move back to the ranch as well. That is such a wonderful place to get to grow up. And it would be so good for JD. I never learned to skateboard but one day I want to learn to snowboard! Roping is really cool as well.

I told my stepdad JD would like it because it is quiet and he can play outside. My stepdad just thinks it would be weird living in my real dad's house because my dad was a 5th generation rancher on the same ranch and he thinks it would be disrespecting my dad

So today one of my friends texted and said they want to come over and hang out, Then he texts me and I quote "not to sound mean but will your new brother be there he is kind of scary if he is can we meet at the Park" I just text him back and said I could not come out and left it at that. I was not sure what to say I know what I wanted to say. Then I got to thinking and not that I have a lot of friends we only have lived here 9 weeks, most of my friends are at my old school, anyways The kids I know here that I skate with or hang with at the park all but Callie never come to the house some have never been but the ones that have never come back I had never really thought about it but now I wonder if they all feel that way. I had one guy say some pretty mean things about JD but I didn't like him much anyway. I just hate to think 1. my friends are that shallow and 2. that I pick that bad of friends on the other side of that I feel bad because I really like hanging out with those guys and not a lot of people my age around here, anyways just venting

Cotton, I am really sorry that that kid said he would not come to your house. It just shows that people don't understand about Autism and we really have to teach them. You will find good people though. When we are disabled we often learn that even though a lot of people are shallow and not willing to be close to us because of how we were made, there are some people who are really good people and who will love us for who we are. They are few and far between, but they are worth waiting for. It's better to have just a very few close people who love you for real than to have a lot of friends who only care about you if you fit into the mold that they want you to fit in. That is not real love.

I also do not think that it would be disrespectful to your father if you lived on the ranch with your stepfather and his children. I think that if your father was anything like you, meaning, if he had such a pure heart of gold like you have, he would be so happy for you all to live there because you guys would be so happy there. I think he would love it. I can imagine that he would want your mom to be happy and have your stepdad meet her needs as a husband and meet your needs as a dad. It's different from someone who is divorced. Your dad passed away, I think he would want someone to love you and your mom as he did. And I think that he would be so happy if his ranch could make such an incredible difference in JD's life. Having you and JD and your new sister get to grow up on the ranch and knowing how much that can help an Autistic child is like an amazing gift that he can continue to give to his family even after he has passed on.