Think my husband has Aspreger

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When you call someone by name, then you are speaking to them personally. As opposed to speaking to the group in general.
According to your 'logic' I could say "Isaura, you're an idiot" and it wouldn't be personal.

I have to say, on a site that is supposed to be for people who lack social skills, the only time I have been insulted is by an NT. Who then refuses to admit it, even though it's in writing. How ironic.

Rynessa, why would I want to insult someone i dont even know? how can it be personal for me? i dont know you as a person, i dont know what relationship you are in! When i said YOU, ment people in general--not YOU personally. English is not my first language, so if there was a misunderstanding--i am sorry, i really did not talk about you or anyone else.

Greentea, you are absolutely right, but i actually see changes in my husband--he did take the test for aspergers and i showed him this message board, i explained to him that I am posting here because i am trying to figure out who he is and how to live with it. And I started seeing changes in him--he is smiling more, trying to talk, went to the birthsday party with me. He is even joking. For the first time i am starting to hope that we could work things out.

I dont think he is a jerk--i think he does not understand that we have a a big communicational problem, if he understands it, it could change for us. It is like being an alocoholic and not understanding that your drinking is hurting people around you. ( I am not impying anything and not trying to inslut anyone by saying this, in case anyone gets offended)

You didn't say "you" you said "Rynessa".
"You" can refer to an individual or a group.
"Rynessa" refers to only one person, ME.
Your English is nearly perfect, so don't give me that excuse, either.

If you don't like your husband, you could always go back to Russia. Unless you're a mail-order bride and you don't want to give up your green card. They'll let you stay if he was being cruel to you, though. But then, you probably already know that, don't you.
Nothing personal, of course.

Dear Rynessa, I am a US citizen, have been one long before I met my husband. In fact, my husband got his green card though marriage to me. So please stop insulting me. I can decide on my own where to live--this is my country as much as yours.

is this the perception of russian women that you have? All of them are mail order brides? Nothing better?
You dont think that there are enough Russian women who are educated and rely on themselves? I came here 10 years ago as an exchange student--I won a scholarship for extraordinary abilities. My husband is not even american--he is Ukranian, came here 4 years ago, I sponsored HIM for a green card. I am here much longer then him, and I've been a US citizen for years without any help of mail order american men.....

Like I said, nothing personal. It couldn't be personal, right? Cause I don't even know you.
Wasn't that what you said after you insulted me?

Hey everyone! We have had NT's on the forum who have stirred up everyone with their superior attitude and feeling the need to give advice. Isaura has not been like that. She has asked for help and she is willing to listen.

[quote="Isaura"] Plutonian, Rynessa, I wish you guys could understand for a second how hard it is for us to live like this--In silence, not seeing any compassion, affection, not hearing compliments, trying to figure out what my husband is feeling or thinking. You should think about it before you get into the relationship with an NT.