What do you hate the most about having autism/aspergers ?

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The stigma sometimes attached to bearing its label.

Realizing you have Asperger's...then noticing absolutely everything you do after that, and that just makes it worse because you go into serious overload...

What I like best is finally realizing you need help from someone, so you can turn the negatives (hopefully most) into positives.

Knowing that no matter what you say, what you do and what you think; you will never be in sync with another soul.

Being unable to tell when someone is serious and when they're joking.

Dealing with curbies.

You would not believe how many shouting matches I got into over the years because someone was joking with me and I thought they were starting trouble with me.

I never thought I would read such a fitting description of how I feel. Or that the planning of the event and designing "the scene" is so much more enjoyable than "mingling".

i've done that too. a few years ago i yelled at a co-worker till he finally said "i'm just teasing you! i'm just kidding!!" and then i yelled back "HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW!??" very embarrassing now i think about it. i guess most people do know.

i also sometimes think people are kidding when they're serious and this gets me into just as much trouble. sometimes it will be a very sensitive topic.

I've done both of these things online and off, although I do not tend to get into shouting matches.

having people try to fix me. im not broken. i like me the way i am.
and the most annoying stereotype is that of the slow child throwing massive tantrums or rocking silently. especially when it gets thrown around by curbies. just look at autism speaks for an example.

Really wanting to be social and have friends, yet avoiding those sorts of situations at the same time because I become socially anxious.
This is such an awful feeling. Most Aspies don't feel like this. If an NT wants to socialise, he or she will do it. If an NT doesn't care to socialise, he or she won't do it, without any hard feelings. Probably goes the same with Aspies. But I'm inbetween - I want to socialise but I have to avoid social situations in bars and nightclubs because I know I find it awkward. It's like a catch 22 really, or a two-way situation.

And this is where the three words ''I hate myself'' comes to make sense.

I hate it that lots of people(even in my own family) think of me as crazy..
they just don't have a clue of what's going on in my mind and then they shoot rude things like ''crazy'' and ''psycho'' at me.

I've more then once send them all tons of pages about Asperger's but.. none ever took the time to read it.
frustrating right?

It is frustrating. My family are all NTs, and my auntie expects me to go out with her teenage daughter and all her teenage friends - the type of people I struggle to get along with the most. But when I say ''no'', I get accused of ''being my own worst enemy'' because I always say I want friends yet I say no when I get the opportunity. But it's not that at all - I do want friends, but I want the right friends for me, not a group of obnoxious teenagers who make me feel like a plain unconfident twat following behind them all the time. I've met up with them before and they didn't speak to me at all, but I still got the blame because people just say, ''you should speak to them.'' Yes, an Aspie who also struggles with social phobia is going to be able to push their way into a group and suddenly make friends, without doing or saying anything stupid. Yeah, as if that's possible.

yep, can relate that's happening to me 2, only some family members accepted the fact that i prefer staying home instead of wasting my times with people that i don't find the purpose of being around with

i've been pushed in my life a lot to as you say''go talk to strangers" i would rather kill myself cause i'm just not interested in those folks.. they all have the same interests all dress the same, talk the same.. nothing fun about it really.

Just stay yourself and don't do things because other people require you to do so, they'll accept it at the long term.

i would love to have a friend as myself actually.. but my suroundings sadly don't produce beings like me

I do have friends, but my friends are older than me (there are only 2 that are the same age as me, but they're not NTs), and I love them all very much, and they understand and respect me, so that's OK. I can relate to NTs, but I just find it hard to speak up to teenagers, because they can be very closed-minded and judgemental, and me being a plain-jane will encourage them to take the piss out of me. The majority of teenagers (mostly girls) will laugh at me, and it doesn't do my ego any good. I just have a standard hairstyle: long hair with the fringe tucked behind my ears, and I don't wear a spot of make-up, and I just have that same pale face - I feel about 50 years old when I'm with a group of dressed-up young girls! Plus I'm tall, so my head will just be poking out of the top of the crowd, looking the most unconfident.

It's not that I'm not interested in other people and don't want to talk. It's just that I'm afraid of what they might think of me, so I stay quiet. If I do say anything, nobody will hear, or I'll be interrupted. Or one person might hear, but know that nobody else is listening, and the one person might just laugh at me or something. I just don't like to look stupid. I like things to go right, but when you're a shy quiet Aspie among a group of obnoxious teenagers, things aren't going to socially go right for me. I know that.

You don't know that though. I've spent most of my life, until recently, not trying things because I "knew" they would go wrong, so what's the point. But of course I didn't know how things were going to turn out...it's a completely self-defeating attitude.