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26 Dec 2014, 3:40 pm

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What the begeebus is rude anyway?
Most of the things that people say are rude on wp, I don't find rude.
I wouldn't notice anything rude if someone doesn't point it out.

I'm the same way, even offline. While others reprimand the offender, I silently wonder what the problem was.

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26 Dec 2014, 4:01 pm

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I haff star. I r da best!

those guys look so out of shape

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26 Dec 2014, 4:08 pm

There doesn't seem to be much food on this particular island.

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26 Dec 2014, 4:11 pm

In my early days on WP, I became quite obsessed with the Be Rude To Someone... thread in the Random Discussion section. I think I took the title literally, and was fairly aggressive towards one or two people, at the same time assuming they would not take it seriously.

I soon found that I myself had difficulty gauging some comments directed at me on the thread, as to whether they were ironic or genuinely hostile.

I don't visit the thread nearly as often now, and when I do, I'm only comfortable engaging with people I've built up some sort of psychological 'rapport' with.

I have considerable difficulties with this sort of thing in other areas of WP too. When the 'discussion' gets heated in some of the more serious threads, and it gets locked, I often fail to see what all the fuss was about. That's one reason, among others, that I wouldn't be a very good moderator!

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26 Dec 2014, 4:14 pm

If a person doesn't want to listen to what I have to "say," I just don't bother to argue. It's ridiculous to argue with a brick wall. :wall:

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26 Dec 2014, 4:19 pm

I don't understand social-emotional support in general.
The only times I have found it useful is when I want to try something difficult outside my comfort zone, and someone says you can do it! go for it!, then that does help me.
I post that kind of thing sometimes when I see that a person is trying to leave their comfort zone.

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26 Dec 2014, 5:50 pm

I've always thought that constructive criticism or practical suggestions are more signs of ackshuly caring about someone than empathy eggspressions or social-emotional support of yes you are right in whatever the situation is. People who do the former might get criticizied themselves for not doing the latter, and there is more risk that they are personally taking to help someone else in ways that they know how.

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26 Dec 2014, 5:59 pm

btbnnyr wrote:

Fnord wrote:

btbnnyr wrote:

What the begeebus is rude anyway? ...

Judging from some of the emails I have received lately, WP members seem to consider it rude when someone disagrees with them, especially when their opinions are proven to be factually wrong. Another bit of "rudeness" seems to occur when one member refuses to accept the beliefs of another member as facts. Finally, simply asking for "Evidence, Please" seems to be enough to set off a flame war.

"Rudeness" therefore seems to be little more than a mis-applied label for non-acceptance of another person's opinions.

I see.
I hate this behavior too: calling someone rude when they disagree with self.
It seems socially manipulative, like the person is trying to use social conventions against rudeness to censure another.
It is still better than sickly sweet fakeness though.

I've noticed on any forum rude is just a word people use when they don't like something. People make up what rude is.

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26 Dec 2014, 6:07 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

You'll get my vote!

So with a grand tally of 1 vote for me, on top of my own vote, my score is now at 2, which is higher than everyone else's, which means I won the election. Bow before your god you sissys! :twisted:

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26 Dec 2014, 6:25 pm

Fnord wrote:

btbnnyr wrote:

What the begeebus is rude anyway? ...

That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. How do you expect anyone to take you seriously?

^ That was rudeness.

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26 Dec 2014, 6:42 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

Fnord wrote:

btbnnyr wrote:

What the begeebus is rude anyway? ...

That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. How do you expect anyone to take you seriously?

^ That was rudeness.

It seemed reasonable to me.
I didn't find it rude.
Your comment seems rude though, but if it's the stupidest thing you ever heard, then I guess it is just non-rude opinion, I guess it would be more rude to call someone stupid than some statement stupid.
But it is still better than sickly sweet fakeness.

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26 Dec 2014, 6:46 pm

NiceCupOfTea wrote:

Honestly sometimes so tempted to post for the sake of getting banned, just so I'm not tempted to come here and wind myself up any longer.

Where are all the Aspies who are rude as*holes when you need them? I have come across enough of them in the past, f*** only knows. Where have they all gone? Lurkers with attitude problems or chips on your shoulder: join WP for my sake. Please. I need you. I need something to undercut this stifling atmosphere before I choke to death on it, it's so sickly "sweet" and "nice".

LOL!! Tee-hee. Smile smile. Hug hug. I wub you and miss you KoR!! :heart:

Vomit vomit.

Hugs to you, Nice Cup of Tea! :jester:

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26 Dec 2014, 6:52 pm

Sometimes, I like it when people personally attack me.
It is fun to run with what slightly mean thing they say to me and analyze it.
I often wish that people would attack me more online.

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26 Dec 2014, 6:58 pm

btbnnyr wrote:

Sometimes, I like it when people personally attack me.
It is fun to run with what slightly mean thing they say to me and analyze it.
I often wish that people would attack me more online.

With a huggy-wuggy avatar picture like yours? Fat chance. :twisted:

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26 Dec 2014, 6:59 pm

btbnnyr wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

Fnord wrote:

btbnnyr wrote:

What the begeebus is rude anyway? ...

That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. How do you expect anyone to take you seriously?

^ That was rudeness.

I was saying that my statement was rude, not that Fnord's was.

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26 Dec 2014, 7:05 pm

btbnnyr wrote:

Sometimes, I like it when people personally attack me.
It is fun to run with what slightly mean thing they say to me and analyze it.
I often wish that people would attack me more online.

Maybe there are some cat haters who might attack me.
I remember a poster who was slightly trollish (and I liked this about them), and they have a fluffy bunny avatar.

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