"Everyone goes thru it"

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That's why I said in my first post bullies find reasons to bully someone about something.

there's looking for something, and then there's extreme desperation to do it....going for some weird looking ears is pushing it. I mean...if they freak out over elf ears, then how do they respect the current President of the US

They didn't have a kid in their class in diapers while the other class did so they had to find a normal kid in their class to pick on and they picked my brother for his ears. And that other kid wasn't even in a wheelchair or using crutches. He was just a regular boy except he wore diapers and I'm sure he got teased for it and I noticed in my brother's yearbook from that year there was a X over his picture, same as some other pictures too of kids so I figured the X's were kids my brother doesn't like and the ones with cirlces around it were kids my brother liked. I'm sure my brother teased the poor boy too because I can remember him and his friends and my other brother talking about it a few times.


Like I say, bullies tease kids who are different but if there is no different child to pick on, they find a random normal child and find a reason to tease him/her about.

Outside of two incidents, one in kindergarten and another in 4th grade, I was never bullied. And the later incident involved a situation where a boy attacked me because he thought (incorrectly) that I pushed him on a staircase when he had merely stumbled.

That I was bigger and smarter than most of the other kids helped.

I do remember, in second grade, throwing acorns (along with another boy), at two girls on the playground. I just recently got in touch with her online and I think she fancies going out with me, which is odd since she lives with her boyfriend. (I'm not much for such things.)

I just remembered this.

I was supposed to get in a "formal" fight with someone in 5th grade... you know, one of those where you were to meet the other person after school at a specific time and place, and all of the kids were going to be there. So I showed up and somehow completely talked the other guy out of the need to fight me, and we both walked away.

It was fairly surreal.

Actually I was bullied by kids(these days adults) who had disabilities and/or learning problems. The NT's were actually my friends who protected me from them. i was in mainstreamed normal classes, though. That was because they knew I was somewhat different, plus I was one of them people who told on them when they had behaviors that harmed the other kids. Especially in high school, when one of the "special" kids kept inappropriately hitting on my girlfriends and my girlfriends were so uncomfortable that I had to do something to help them. i know they could not help it, so i told the teachers, but because the teachers would "discipline" them, only by yelling and/or having rewarding programs taken away, they hated me forever. Now, I get bullied and attacked by high functioning and low functioning autistic adults(especially my housemates, who are high functioning that have severe behavioral issues) that also have mental retardation. That is because I am the highest functioning one and am more smarter. My housemates bully me and then blame me for causing it because they lie saying I stressed them out when I did nothing to them. They do that because they know how to "cheat" the system in order to "prevent" consequences on their behalf. So not only do i get bullied by them, I also get in trouble and have a double whammy, and yet they got the great feeling of bullying me and getting me into trouble. They live for my misery. It is like the employees love that they are enjoying life, even if I am paying the price. All they care about is that these "clients" do not have issues that affect them. this is why I am having severe emotional problems with memories that cause great anxiety, and why I am scared of people who have disabilities that also are mentally ret*d.

I think bullies mostly pick on the weak.
If they think you won't fight back then you're in trouble, if you're different, then it just gives them more ammo.

Justin.

But some bullies do pick on people to provoke them. Some want them to fight back so they can say meaner things. So the worse thing you can do to them is to ignore them. They might do meaner things to you and the worse they can do is start grabbing you and beating you for ignoring them because they know you can't ignore that. But other than that, they might call you meaner things and be even more meaner because they are getting frustrated they aren't getting to you so after a while they will leave you alone learning they can't get to you so it's no use, if they are smart of course.

In high school I spent most lunch periods by the "special ed" classrooms. The much needed no talking zone around me, and the clear sight of the bullies. I almost felt bad, I would attack the bully (only after his attack) and physically embarrassed them. Always telling them "how'd that feel". Don't know if I was any better.

My most significant problem when I was young (and still persists today), is I've always been excruciatingly fragile. I've always felt things very intensely. I haven't been able to find solace in the typical advice given to people who feel sadness and loneliness, mainly because I know instinctively the people giving it aren't even aware of how broadly emotions can be felt. Just sort of makes me ignore any kind of advice now.

[quote="vessel"]My most significant problem when I was young (and still persists today), is I've always been excruciatingly fragile. I've always felt things very intensely. I haven't been able to find solace in the typical advice given to people who feel sadness and loneliness, mainly because I know instinctively the people giving it aren't even aware of how broadly emotions can be felt. Just sort of makes me ignore any kind of advice now. I also felt very fragile as a kid. I feel the same about advice, I will break the cycle with my son. I have so far...