Everyone is my equal

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I just started reading this and felt a sense of familiarity there because whether it is in real life or on the internet, there is one thing that always challenges me and creates unintended conflict:

I don't agree with things like chain of command. If someone tells me to go to someone in order to complain about something that only someone else can handle, it, I rather go directly to the person who can make the difference. If I go straight to the person, then I feel my point may be taken and not just forgotten in transition from one person to the other.
As you can guess in a job situation this can cause conflict and it has at times.

I also dislike pecking orders, because I always seem to find myself at the very bottom and with no hope of reaching the top, or at least in a place I can feel confident and like I fit in. I always seem to find myself in conflict with people whether I like it or not.


Aside from that I tend to have a feeling that things I know and understand are either one of the two extremes: that everyone knows what I am thinking about, or at least understands...or no one can understand or know hat I am feeling. If I go to one extreme then I am sharing way more info than I need to and that puts off people. If I go to the other extreme then I'm very cynical and put off people...

I'm the same.
I'm sure that a good part of the reason why I got fired from my last job was that I spoke to my boss as an equal. I acknowledged that he knew more about his business than I did, and I didn't refuse to follow his instructions, so I really don't see what the problem was.