Banned from the forums?

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I've never been banned from a forum, but I have left a number of email groups because of nasty behavior by other members that I felt was directed at me. Once, there was a woman who persistently posted bigoted comments about my religious group. There were several of us in the group, but she always posted right after I had posted something. The group moderator said she was just very young and immature and needed to learn tolerance. I left because the group became too stressful for me. Another time, someone posted something to a story group that was really good but needed a warning in the header of the story about upsetting content, so I sent her a reply that complemented the story but commented about the lack of warning in the header. Well, it turns out there was a warning -- in a separate email, not in the one containing the story. She sent back a very nasty comment about people who were too lazy or stupid to read the first email getting what they deserved. For once, I didn't feel like allowing someone to be nasty to me so I snapped back at her and she got even more belligerant. I ended up leaving over it. The group just didn't feel friendly to me anymore.

Regards,

Patricia

I was never banned, or close, but I have a habit of being irritating when I first join a forum and when I grow to understand how the people on that forum work I become one of the most respected members on the site

If you want to be banned from a forum, try the www.physicsforums.com. If something doesn't fit in with their 'theories' you'll be thrown off in no time. I think they give you points like the police do here in the UK for driving up the wrong side of the road.

I've been banned from a forum a lot of people here are members of

I posted earlier on the other thread -I am new to forums and wonder what sort of non written things does one get banned for? I feel like if someone offends then at least an assumption should be made that it was unintentional and someone else on the forum could use the opportunity to enlighten them. I mean ASD forums that is. It's for support and education after all and such junior high school behavior such as freezing out is counterproductive. It's also something I very much associate with incomprehensible N.T. behavior.

By non written I mean official rules.

Well, as regards ASD forums, I tend to ruffle feathers with my insisting that autism is something you are, not something you have. Parents tend to not like me smashing the dream of the recovered child. It is hard to hear and accept that things you thought were being helpful, are killing us every day. To know that a complete stranger just Gets It about certain things regarding your child that you may never be able to understand. That said, I've yet to be banned from an ASD forum. At least that I know of.

Freezing out is an overt, group performed way of disrespecting an individual. You simply decide to dehumanize somebody to the point that you don't acknowledge they exist. This is different from probations or time outs, if you don't make the effort to explain what somebody did wrong you can't expect them to know it was wrong. Even when people are intellectually aware of a rule, they don't realize the exact point where they crossed over into violation. This relates to why I don't generally approve of bans, they tend to be a unilateral decision, that ends up in a group freeze out and the group might not even realize they are doing it because they have no other means to communicate with the banned individual.

Because of my argumentative nature and my being too quick to resort to swearing and threats of violence when disagreed with or slighted, I have been banned from MANY forums, including one just a few weeks ago. But I always end up back on said forums, because I have enough computer savvy to be able to get in anywhere.

If a post is more than a few quick lines or about something that might be considered a serious topic by anybody reading what I expressed, these days I take the extra time to think about just what I wanted to say, what I actually said, and how others might read it.

I thought that this was going to be a naughty thread where people were discussing the bans that the WP mods have issued, but to my delight it seems like it is rather more harmless.

I have been given a ticking off by one of the mods a couple of months after I joined, and have been told by one user to behave better. Since these warnings I have tried to be a "new man", and to try to do my small bit to keep the WP in a clean and tidy state.

I guess that the best thing the mods can do is to get a naughty member to reform, I think that it is better if possible for a erring member of WP to step back onto the straight and narrow than it is to throw them out. I used to know a law enforcement officer who said to me that if he could get a person to see the error of his ways and reform it was far better than taking the person to court. He reasoned that the person will stop doing the wrong thing quicker if they reform, and then they might encourage others to obey the rules.

I am unsure how best the mods can reform naughty members into good ones., in my case a warning issued by WP taught me not to break one of the WP rules. Do not bother asking me what I did wrong, I would rather not discuss it as by doing so I might repeat my ill deed.

I think that some forms of troll are close to impossible to reform, but I think that for some minor offenders that there is hope.

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Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

A forum? No. A certain dialup ISP, yes. Oh wait, I think getting banned from AoHell was a good thing.

Was banned from WP a couple years back. Would rather not go into it though.

I once was banned for using a humorous, self-deprecating nickname which was lost on the mods who took offense. They didn't even give the real reason for my banishment.

I've never been banned from a forum.

I've been banned from a forum organized by my friends, because my other friend told me to post spam on that forum and I did. She had some conflict with the people who made the forum, and we were both flamed badly there. That was a very long time ago, maybe when I was in Grade 8.