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Spokane_Girl

13 Jun 2009, 9:03 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

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Spokane_Girl wrote:

They're normal. You go in and we all look like regular people and it doesn't look like we have AS. You might see a very few rocking and that's about it. The ones I have been too had stim toys and when we stim with them, it looks normal. One of the groups I go to does show and tell. I am known as the Benny and Joon girl. I haven't seen any odd behavior there.

Stim toys, like what?

Rubber balls, spinning toys, water toys you can tip and watch, glitter sticks with water in them, craft sticks that bend I have no idea what they are called so I'm calling them that), bouncy balls, magnet toys.

Sounds like stim heaven! :lol:

Speaking of stim toys, does anyone know where you can find those balls that have flashing lights in them? They showed these in that movie, "Snow Cake."

I find Happy Meal toys to be stim toys.

Spokane_Girl

13 Jun 2009, 9:05 pm

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spokane_girl, Do they have flashy lights and whatnot?

No. They don't have things that make noise or light up. Unless you throw the stim toys or slam them on the table. :lol:

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13 Jun 2009, 9:25 pm

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Love that image!!

I know that the 3-4 Aspies in my family "look" pretty normal. But as I've read about AS recently, I've noticed that we're not really even *really* comfortable with each other at times. There's love. But if it weren't for those neurotypicals who married in, it'd be a DULL conversation until the great INTEREST came out. And if one of us is enduring intense stress, it's even harder to talk.

It's not the visual "look" really anyway that I'm asking about (bad wording, I s'pose). But since I know how *I* act in large groups and the rest of my Aspie family act and I know how I see NTs acting, I am more curious at how the group functions when it's an intentional grouping of Aspies. Do you all want to crawl under a rock and hide in the same way? Do you all hover in the periphery?

So I guess I'm asking about movement. . . . or something.

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13 Jun 2009, 9:28 pm

STIM TOYS!! :lol: Now I know why we all cluster around certain kids' presents at Christmas time. There was one infant toy that all three of us handed off to each other that was really kind of fascinating. . . .

Me likey stim toys.

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13 Jun 2009, 9:39 pm

QueenKnitter wrote:

I am more curious at how the group functions when it's an intentional grouping of Aspies. Do you all want to crawl under a rock and hide in the same way? Do you all hover in the periphery?

So I guess I'm asking about movement. . . . or something.

QK

I was once at a function where I ended up sitting at a table full of people on the spectrum. It was weird. Hardly anyone spoke. One or two of them stared so intently that if I hadn't understood, I would have wanted to leave. The others assiduously avoided eye contact. One was engaged in sharing her current stream of consciousness, in a loud, metallic voice. It was really different to the NT gatherings I'd attended!

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14 Jun 2009, 3:39 am

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Love that!

Your family get togethers sound fantastic!! ! The thought of sitting around discussing minor details in movies or something of the sort makes me really happy! LOL I love pointing out commercials, mistakes and "yeah right's/as if's" in movies ... i am known to be HORRIBLE to watch a movie with, thankfully my mostly NT husband doesn't complain and even joins in the commercial pointing outing.

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14 Jun 2009, 4:40 am

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Thanks, Warsie. I'm on a mission, now...

!For Great Justice! :mrgreen:

Good

Also forgot. Toy Stores and Flea Markets

Spokane_Girl wrote:

No. They don't have things that make noise or light up. Unless you throw the stim toys or slam them on the table. :lol:

damn. Wait. They light when they move? Well you said that earlier-k

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14 Jun 2009, 4:52 am

One I went to had people who must have had other things as well as or instead of an ASD and it was obvious none of us were NT; it was quite sad to hear some of the stories and challenges that people were trying to make sense of and manage.

Another group had different people turning up most of the time so you never knew quite who would be there and if you would see people you liked ever again, quite unsettling in some ways.

A third group I went to wsa much more high functioning and I absolutely loved these people, mostly the same group of people would turn up and lots of us seemed to have gone through the same kinds of things.

So they are all different and I think a good thing though I don't attend any now because I limit my real life people contact due to sensory overload.

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14 Jun 2009, 2:21 pm

Warsie wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

Thanks, Warsie. I'm on a mission, now...

!For Great Justice! :mrgreen:

Good

Also forgot. Toy Stores and Flea Markets

Spokane_Girl wrote:

No. They don't have things that make noise or light up. Unless you throw the stim toys or slam them on the table. :lol:

damn. Wait. They light when they move? Well you said that earlier-k

No I didn't. Read my posts again.

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14 Jun 2009, 3:06 pm

I have been to some, and they were just like get-togethers with anyone else.

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14 Jun 2009, 10:18 pm

I have been to Autreat a couple times and also we had some groups at MAAP (a parent run group about their kids with hfa/AS). They were pretty relaxed and I really did enjoy them. Yes, I love the stim toys. My personal favorite is a penlight with a fiber optic hairs at the end. There is a little colored wheel so that the color changes.
BTW, I found a great website for stim toys! http://www.ozmofun.com/light.htm
There are some things here I haven't seen for a long time. (BTW, I have not ordered from them, so I can't vouch for them.)

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14 Jun 2009, 10:44 pm

I bookmarked that page. Thanks!

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14 Jun 2009, 11:35 pm

We had one today at my venue. It was pretty informal...there was a sort of potluck and everybody drew on the floor in chalk. :wink:

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15 Jun 2009, 8:04 am

A very, very good friend of mine is an Aspie, and they are the same Aspie profile as I am: the main symptom is rambling on and on about special interests. When we first met, we both were very quiet and unsure of what to say/do. But once we became comfortable with one another a few minutes later, we started talking about our special interests, and from that moment on, whenever we're together, we never stop talking. We have a lot of fun together, and we often think the same thoughts at the same time. I've met several other Aspies, both on other Internet forums and in real life, and it's pretty much the same pattern over and over again. I get along extremely well with Aspies who are really obsessive about special interests, but for Aspies whose main symptom is social problems, I tend to not click with them. My social deficits are mild and hidden well, and I don't deal well with Aspies who are quiet. I'm a talker, and I like the feeling of being with Aspies who will talk over you. When I'm with my good friend, we constantly interrupt one another, trying to compete for control of the conversation. I like that, because I interrupt people by accident all of the time, and it's nice to talk with somebody else who does the same thing and doesn't mind it.
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15 Jun 2009, 8:15 am

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It's like that with my best friend. He isn't that chatty but our friendship had the same pattern. First few minutes went a bit slow but then we suddenly became the best of friends, we made friends quicker than alot of NTs did at my school! We just clicked. We have loads of our own little injokes and greetings and no one knows what they are. I am 100% myself with him. And he usually hates being touched and when he was 12/13 he'd hit people if they accidently push past him, but with me he's really affectionate and we're both all over eachother lol.
I also have another best friend with AS, he's very talkative like me and we made friends pretty quick. Now we just ramble on and on about things to do with the internet and youtube mostly lol, and our convsersations are hilarious sometimes because we both talk loud and he always talks over me and we barely look at eachother and we talk about weird stuff. One of the teachers jokingly said he likes listening to our conversations because we sound like nutcases.

I generally get on really well with other aspies, even the one at school I don't like I'm still civil with him.

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15 Jun 2009, 1:43 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

Speaking of stim toys, does anyone know where you can find those balls that have flashing lights in them? They showed these in that movie, "Snow Cake."

I have one. Two lights flash in two directions when it hits a hard object, like when you bounce it on the floor. After a few seconds it stops on it's own. A vendor was giving them away at a convention I attended a few years ago. I am getting a high from reading this thread for some odd reason.

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