ever since you were an adult your life just got worse?

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This is a bit off topic but I'm in the US and love listening to the BBC radio. They sometimes talk about A-levels. What does that mean? Are thoses the tests you would take to graduate our equivalent of high school?

Yes, the older I become, the more people expect of me that I am not able to give, and the more they expect me to have experience of 'life events' that I have not.

Family members were reasonably alright with me until I was around 20, while they still seemed to think that I was some kind of social late bloomer, and would magically change one day and become 'normal'. When it became obvious that this was not going to happen, they became ever more critical and rejecting.

And they catch you and throw you out! So then you plot and scheme and come up with a more ingenious way of sneaking in (eg. through an open window), and then catch you and throw you out again, so then you try going in through the roof... and so on and so forth for the rest of your life.

rofl what's so bad about aspies? *is a aspie* anyway as i got older, i bacame more aggresive and just worse. I always get what i want or i go crazy and get a meldown and end up causing a mess.

Once I bulled my way past the door, I found out the bouncer was the only one who cared about the sign...

My first wife left me before I knew I was aspie, because she learned I'd never be the meal ticket she wanted. Then I met my current wife, and we've been together for 12 years and counting. She cares about my happiness, not how rich I might make her.

No, I can't get a job easily - but we've carved out an existence that doesn't depend on my employment, so that's all right. (I'll be looking into disability before too long - have to go get Medicare first, so I can afford a for-real diagnosis.)

For the first ten years or so, my life as an "adult" wasn't great, especially after I left the Air Force. I've spent time living in a tent in the woods; I've lived with relatives, with friends, and by myself. And after I came to accept who I am and what I can and can't do, my life became enormously happier and easier.

Mine has actually gotten easier. I have more freedom, I don't need to be told what to do anymore, no more punishments, I get my own money so I am free to spend it on whatever I want. When I was a kid I could hardly get anything I wanted. I had to wait till Christmas or my birthday to get things and it was rare when mom let me get something I wanted. I sure don't want to go back to that.
Also people seem to leave me alone now than picking on me. They just mind their own business and leave me alone. People don't try and get me to do things anymore that are wrong such as pulling the fire alarm.

Things seem to get better after I got out of high school. Sure there were my ex's and things would be hard at my work but my life is still better as an adult because I like the freedom I have now. Kids don't really have freedom and they get bossed around and told what to do and get punishments. But they get more rights as they get older such as staying up later, no more bed time and they can give themselves one now than being told to go to bed by their mommies and being forced having lights out. Things get harder in some ways because people expect more out of you because of your age which can be hard and some fun gets taken away such as Easter Egg Hunts and not being allowed on toy equipment anymore at fast food restaurants, kids menus get taken away and that change can be scary. I got used to all that and learned I could still have fun as an adult and how to keep myself busy in sit down restaurants.


As a kid it did get harder for me in some ways such as in my teens when my mom started getting mad at me for my anxiety and when my brothers got older too so they had friends over more often and were even louder and made bigger messes, my parents didn't give rats about me. My anxiety got worse and I had more meltdowns and they ignored them and my mom gave me the biggest threat, if I ever hit her again, she will send me away. I stopped attacking her because I didn't want to be sent away or there be no more computer and video games and my whole routine be different.

Yes, sunshower, it's a lifelong struggle. I sometimes wonder if I'd put all that energy into another project, one that I could actually get results from, I could've achieved so much in life!

And Hovis, ditto to every word. That's how it's been for me too.

Greentea - you've still got a lifetime to achieve stuff in! It's certainly not too late to start over, if you so desire. For me, the best part of life is fresh starts. That's what I love about life; how you can scrap everything and have a fresh start and go in a different direction, no matter how much of a pickle you got yourself in (unless you murdered someone, of course). And every experience builds towards the beautiful and detailed collage of your life. Every experience has a start and an end, and no experience is a "failure" because you learn something from every one and change as a person.

The real achievement one makes in life is the achievement of oneself - the person you are, being the sum total of your experiences and knowledge.