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06 Jul 2009, 9:05 am

I hear that all the time I don't know why my parents keep shouting at me.



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06 Jul 2009, 4:10 pm

MetalCowgirl34 wrote:
My mom and grandma think I'm rude and ungrateful too...and that I don't like them or just use them for money or whatever. Nothing I do or say can change their minds. They are so focused on the certain cookie-cutter things you're supposed to say at certain times (like "thank you" and stuff like that) which I have a hard time remembering to do, that they can't see that I have other ways of showing my appreciation. They think my explanation of the reason I forget to say thank you is BS.


Yes, I see this in people a lot. They've become obsessed with the ritual ('this is what you do at certain times/to show that you feel a certain way') and any real meaning behind it has become irrelevant. My father insists that certain things are parrotted to him even while he knows perfectly well that the words are empty or simply untrue; he just wants to hear them spoken. Everything is all right then, to him; the ritual has been performed.



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06 Jul 2009, 4:39 pm

Hovis wrote:
MetalCowgirl34 wrote:
My mom and grandma think I'm rude and ungrateful too...and that I don't like them or just use them for money or whatever. Nothing I do or say can change their minds. They are so focused on the certain cookie-cutter things you're supposed to say at certain times (like "thank you" and stuff like that) which I have a hard time remembering to do, that they can't see that I have other ways of showing my appreciation. They think my explanation of the reason I forget to say thank you is BS.


Yes, I see this in people a lot. They've become obsessed with the ritual ('this is what you do at certain times/to show that you feel a certain way') and any real meaning behind it has become irrelevant. My father insists that certain things are parrotted to him even while he knows perfectly well that the words are empty or simply untrue; he just wants to hear them spoken. Everything is all right then, to him; the ritual has been performed.

See, here I thought that we were supposed to be the ones who are rigid with our rituals...


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06 Jul 2009, 8:01 pm

I really get tired of it when my roommate says it to me. Mostly because she's got social anxiety disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder. If I don't do things the way she wants them done she says things like, "That's just how you are" or "Its cause of AS right?" She's as nutty as a fruit bat but if I say it to her its WWIII.