Corny phrases/advice that make your blood boil

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Ah! This one is a killer one!

I agree-that one is so stupid.

also-hot/cold enough for ya?

Yeah nah, aye. YOU like big tits, a big arse and a cute face.
Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder.



I think that just means get something to do. Getting a life doesn't have to mean a social life. It just means getting into something, taking life day by day and getting something positive out of it.



I find it more annoying when people display this trait, have a cry about how s**t their life is and how overseas is so much better, I can understand people being dismissive.



Actually, excersise greatly DOES improve your mood. You should try it some time



I totally agree. I think that one is more used to help children get through tough time and keep a strong mindset. Personally, when push comes to shove, its not true at all.

"Names" Have completely destroyed my self esteem and contributed greatly in how f****d up I am, and I actually need professional help because of it.



Yeah that annoys me too. What annoys me more though is people saying stuff like "Why are you so tense and ajitated?" gee, thanks for bringing attention to it, I really owe you one



It certainly does not seem to. And it does not in our life. I think though, From a spiritual sense, and only that, this is true. Your soul grows.

walk it off actually means -pretend you don't feel that excruciating pain you're experiencing.

This is a great topic.

Agreed.

"In your opinion..."
----Of course it's my opinion. Why do you think I said it.

"You have way too much time on your hands" (said in response to my having just displayed an uncommon talent or knowledge)
----So because I can do something you can't, you have to imply that my skill or knowledge is something so trivial or stupid that no one would bother with it unless they are doing nothing with their life? People have said this to things I've said or done that were genuinely entertaining, useful, or skillful. For example, I've had a guy that would tell me this in a snide way when I was doing some really good impressions of people. (they're thinking that obviously that sort of thing has to come from practice not from natural talent, afterall, they can't do it, and everybody is the same right? We're all just neurotypical blank slates)

"you/everbody has a right to your/their opinion"
----Oh goody. Thank you for giving me permission. I was about to just believe whatever you told me

"You can't just run away from your problems, you have to face them"

-----OF COURSE I CAN!! ! Are you trying to say there is never a time to leave a situation that will cause harm??? Of course retreating all the time is a bad principle. But you can't make never retreating into a principle either. If you really have some advice for me, give me advice that is specific to this situation, and if you think it wise to stay in it then give me the reasons. Don't tell me it is wise to stay in the situation simply because it is a virtue to stick things out and conquer them.


"Life isn't fair"

OK....?

sometimes your brother gets the last piece of cake because that's all there is. Parents don't have to make sure everything is equal in every way possible. But saying I've no right to object to a perceived injustice is wrong. If the situation is necessary, well, necessity is fair. If you think I'm complaining about something that is necessary and thus the fairest thing possible, don't agree that it's unfair and say it's fine because life is unfair as if it's a principle for any situation.

Assume someone tries to console you with this expression because neither of you have the ability to change the situation. Well I don't need you to "explain" to me the fact that unfairness happens. I'd rather have someone say, "you're right, it's not fair, I wish it could be"

I think there IS truth in this phrase, and many people have good intentions in saying it---they are trying to express the truthful aspects of the inequalities in life to make something productive out of them rather than just complaining about them. But this is the sort of thing you can tell yourself. Do NOT say it to another person. Not because it's not true, but because it implies so many things that it is more misleading than truthful.

"GROW UP!!"
I'm doing it as fast as I can

"get out more/get some fresh air etc"
one word.. no

Yes, this one is a real favorite hot-button of mine. Yes, it is a good concept to keep in mind yourself, because in the real world a deserving village may be wiped out in the landslide, while the "wicked" village prospers, the good antelope gets eaten, etc. Nothing is cetrtain. Entitlement is an illusion. But...I see one of the roles of civilization, living within a social structure, as smoothing out the bumps of "unfair life", attempting to make life more fair for all members of society, whether they are beloved members or not. So yes, it is a good idea to keep this in mind ourselves to be prepared for those things we can't control. But it is a real insult to say it to others. Seems very mean to me, not philosophical, like saying "if I had a vote, I wouldn't give support to you".

You are a lucky man to have discovered this young. This just gets better and better as you age and your tastes continue to expand. (I'm a woman but the principle is the same.) By the time you hit middle age (where I am now) you will see beauty literally everywhere you look. Elderly people who have stayed on this path tell me the expansion just continues until they are seeing beauty in grass, rocks, fish, humans of all ages and types, buildings, art, EVERYTHING.

No pain, no gain.
Use it or lose it.
Soldier on.

ruveyn

I agree 100! "Life is unfair" is absolutely true and something to tell yourself- not other people. It should be used as an internal incentive to help those to whom life has been particularly unfair, not used as a bludgeon to scold other people for venting.

"dont act like ret*d"

It pretty much means wanting to eat the cake but still leaving it intact. At least, that's what I worked out from the weird phrasing.

...hmm yes I hate the "life's not fair", since it's usually a defense of their own unfairness. I am always shocked at this since it is basically admitting that their actions are unfair but they're doing it anyway.

"Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" this is false on both a physical and emotional/mental level.

Also, the "I don't care what people think" cliche has dodgy implications. It would mean you show no regard whatsoever for other people's feelings.

I don't have much of a problem with corny phrases as such, though if they're used for bad purposes then it can annoy me, just like anything else that's used for bad purposes. I don't mind how old or new a phrase is, as long as it does me good to hear it.

I positively like "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". There are still a lot of people who need to realise that there's no such thing as an absolutely beautiful or ugly person or object. Sure, there are cultural norms, but I don't conform to them very much, and I'd hate to be a slave to what I see as a load of daft stereotypical canons of taste. Most of those norms in modern Western society seem to be based on males looking ultra-male and females looking ultra-female. I don't see why genders have to be so sharply delineated, as if we're judging everybody solely by their heterosexual attractiveness, which always seemed to me like a sick criterion for a supposedly monogamous society. Really it's horses for courses and I think we all know that deepdown. Every time I see one of those "sexy flat stomach" ads on WP, I feel sorry for the gullible people it's aimed at, not just because their diet probably doesn't work, but because there are so many folks out there who think they need something like that to give them self-confidence. End of rant.

"just ignore them and they'll stop"

No! They will be fascinated by this and step it up, and make fun of you for that too..

Boiled trite topic

Chill out
WTF
Why are you such a ret*d?
Get over yourself

All these stock phrases are conversation stoppers. I never use them. When spoken, the recipient of this advice is not expected to answer, and many like me do not understand what these mean in context anyway.

I have actually done that on several occasions. If I'm visiting someone and they offer me coffee and cake, I tell them that just coffee is ok, thank you, I don't eat cake. If they still insist that I take some cake, I take it on my plate and leave it there. If they complain, that I did not eat it, I point out that I already said that I don't eat cake. I just took it because they asked me to.