Eye Contact Scale

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Usually, unless it's someone I feel really contact making eye contact with, any effort I put into making the eye contact will be energy and mental power that could've been spent on articulating what I want to say; once I make the eye contact, I can't remember a thing I want to say.

it really depends.. if i feel safe with that peron then 2-3 and if I must do itwith somone else probily 4-5.... somtimes it is harder fpr the reviever of my eye contact than me

7 to 9 i guess
and i really don't care if that makes the nt uncomfortable as the nt never cared about what made me uncomfortable
nt's i have befriended never expressed that the lack of eye contact made them uncomfortable but i don't make too many friends

1. From none to normal.

For me I find how easy it is to make eye-contact depends on the type of NT I'm speaking too. If the NT is one of those really confident, loads of eye-contact, fast-moving-conversation types, I instantly feel intimidated by it but if it's someone I'm close too I can tolerate eye-contact but have to think about it.

Also, I find it especially difficult with my Dad who I presume has undiagnosed AS, I am sure he is uncomfortable with it too but we've never spoken about it.

I guess I'd say I find eye-contact an 8 :@

I can do it but it's not intuitive.

The main thing with eye-contact is experience. Like in the beginning I used to make eye-contact, like a stare, hehe, but not know how to break it, so then I would have to, like, slide my eyes to the side to break it. Ugh, it was horrible. Also, I think maybe that side-sliding thing might make NTs think I was being dishonest. But in reality, NTs don't make prolonged eye-contact, the secret is to blink or roll your eyes to break the eye-contact, I have noticed that NTs do this kind of thing a lot.

Yeah, ColdBlooded, I know what you mean... I think I just take it for granted now that NTs are obsessed with eye-contact. After many years of people calling me weird and saying I don't make much eye-contact, blah, blah, it just seemed like the lesser of the evils especially because I had so many problems at work.

But then, sometimes I think maybe I should stop making it / faking it and be true to myself hehe

Definitely a 10. I can't do it, it's too painful.

It varies depending on the situation and who I'm with. So I'll average it out with a five.

About 3 or 4, I can do eye contact, but sometimes it can be hard.

Anything between 4-8 depending on the person.

I used to be something 7-8 now I don't care anymore and will burn right through them with a stare.

9...

If I am in a crowd more like a 10, and in a conversation with 6 or 7 people maybe a 5 or 6. one on one maybe a 4 or 5.

In terms of actually difficulty, maybe a 3 or 4. In terms of lack of eye contact because it doesn't occur to me to do it, more like 7-ish, but that's to do with forgetting that people "need" eye contact, not discomfort.