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Yes.. It's especially hard when the person knows you have that issue and is still just totally insensitive to it. Someone I considered a very close friend and who knew all about my rejection issues and why I have them, and who has those issues herself, got all nasty and sarcastic when I got paranoid that she was mad at me.. I guess it depends on the trust problem. Like a friend who demands to know where you are 24/7 isn't acceptable.. But wanting a message back saying "no, I'm not mad at you" when someone you normally speak to every day doesn't speak to you for several days, and knows that you have rejection issues... Is that something unreasonable to ask of a friend?

I've had people complain that they couldn't get close to me and I didn't know what they meant. Now I'm beginning to realize what they wanted was for me to make myself vulnerable to them. As a spectrumy person, there will always be a part of me that's just for me. It's in my wiring. I would resent anyone who wouldn't just let me give as much as I was able.

I don't trust anyone. I've always been like that. I always try to figure out what your angle is. I always think someone has an angle. I read between the lines of EVERYTHING they say, I tell them specific things, and only them so if I ever hear it from someone else I know they can't be trusted. I'm paranoid of the people (friends) I keep and I don't trust them as far as I can throw them.

Abused as a child, multiple ways/times.