is rocking/swaying in your seat socially unacceptable?

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Yup! Doritos are disappointing on all fronts: taste, smell, sound. I don't know if they've been tested, but it seems they make the loudest crunches of all the chips...might cause the strongest breath after eating too...lol

Dorito's definitely have the worst smell in this sense, too: If you drink a bottled water while eating Dorito's and you want to use that water again later, forget about it. The water has such a horrible smell, it's enough to make you gag. There was no way I was going even drink that water after that horrible odor

blech. it seems it has traumatized you.

When it comes to rocking, I think only auties do it, MAYBE, I have not seen any aspies do it.

I've rocked in the past, and I am on the ADHD/AS end of the spectrum. You can rock and be an Aspie. The lines are not clearly defined and repetitive behaviours (stims) are part of the diagnostic criteria in the DSM.
Moving was a big thing for me all through childhood and as a teenager. I moved both voluntarily and involuntarily. I was the one who chomped the gum, chewed on the pencil and constantly moved when others wanted me to sit still. I fidgeted on a constant basis. I also liked moving things, rocking things back and forth, pusing people in swings, even when there wasn't anyone in the swing...I would pust hit just to see it move. I was very motion oriented. It's so hypnotic, kind of like Cobras fascinated by the steady, predictable motion of a moving basket lid, listening to music. That's sorta like me when driving a car. The music and the driving causes me to feel relaxed.

When I was a child it was hammered into me to sit still so I did. By the time I realized that I had Aspergers I knew why I my body was so stiff all the time. People who give me massages sat that I am extremely tense and stiff and I always noticed people were telling me to relax constantly.

Sorry if I offend anyone, but screw socially acceptable, I am going to move around as much as I damn well please. I am so tense after 29 years of not moving at all and being as still as I possibly can that my body is absolutely miserable. Ofcourse when you tell an AS child not to move they are going to take you way too literally and not move at all. I have recently embraced my natural rocking movements and odd hand gestures and the amount of relief I feel is immense. Moving around makes me feel calm and helps me deal with difficult social and sensory situations.

If I have to "accept" all of the backwards things that NT's do then I deserve the same accomodation and if someone verbally tells me it bothers then I will just tell them that I am autistic and to get over it. Maybe I will just punch them in the face or tell them to stop being a human.

oh really? because i had to move a few times....very slightly. and i kept tensing my muscles to move them without actually moving. XD

I don't really care. I do it anyway! If it was making an annoying noise or something, i could see how that might annoy people... so if i start tapping something or doing something else that's making a noise without fully realizes it, i'll definitely stop and try not to do it if someone calls me on it. But people really don't have to look at me if they are bothered by my rocking, leg-bouncing, swaying side to side, or anything like that. As a kid i barely did anything that was really visible to others as stimming.. but through the years my stimmy movements just get more and more pronounced. I don't remember rocking becoming a habit until i was around 13-ish, and then it was just when i was on the computer or something. Prior to that is was mostly just skin picking, some minor leg bouncing, or maybe sitting in a certain way. Then it got to where i'd rock or leg-bounce in public sometimes without realizing it, then more, and these days its a lot. If i suppressed it, i'd just find some other repetitive movement to do, because it seems like i stim somehow most of the time now. I used to suppress it if i caught myself doing it in public, but these days i don't bother. It's way too often to control and it doesn't cause me any problems, it just helps me feel more comfortable, so who really cares if someone sees it and thinks i'm strange(i mean, they probably already think that anyway).

You'll need to have a rocking chair - then it's totally socially acceptable.

Or at least one of those office chairs that can move in a rocking manner.

I'll need to invent a side-to side rocking chair.

Don't think it is actually socially unacceptable.....rocking back and forth or side to side.....but NTs do think it is weird.

My really pronounced time of doing it as an adult was just after my father died and my mother just yelled at me to stop . Maybe I did it as a smallchild and don't remember it but it sure as hell freaked my mother out.

I still can do it sometimes but not in public, usually when I'm super stressed out. I know auties can do it all the time.
As it isn't rude or actually disturbing ( as in making sounds) I can't see any grounds for social acceptability.

Most of NT social rules seem pointless. Eye contact for example, even when people have put it into words to explain it, that is all it is. Just words with no feeling of understanding. I understand the words fine. Same with rocking. Why do people care? I don't do it simply because I like my job and am ok at church without it but at home alone, I do a lot. Pointless rules are hard to obey. So maybe rocking is socially unacceptable. But some situations it doesn't matter to me.