absence of feelings in aspergers is frustrating

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I agree... For me, it's not that I don't feel, it's that I don't express it in the way that seems expected by society.

The recieving presents thing has always been a major dilemma, with me not knowing how to express my appreciation even when I really do like the gift. The givers want to see the reaction - That's why they like to be present when you open it. I never feel like I can show enough graditude without it coming across as contrived.

Also, there have been cases where someone close to me has died, and I've felt sad, but I just couldn't bring myself to cry. I'd feel like I should, since everyone else around me was crying. In those cases, I have to set up an private environment of reflection in order to bring myself to cry. Usually, that involves looking at old pictures of the deceased while remembering memories of them and listening to Five for Fighting's "100 Years" or some similarly overdramatic song. I can't do that if other people are looming over me, distracting and pressuring me, though.

I don't like gift. I don't like reciving them or making them, and it's one thing I really can't understand. I've also read somewhere why NT do that (antropological point of view) and it seems stupid (something like keeping network live, showing other status simbol, and social things like that).