Having a conversation with a 10 year old Ugh!

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eww works for me, arg, is one of my all purpose favorites.

Yes dear worked for years with one little girl, till she caught me saying it to a puppy.

I would say they are moving from statments to dialog, and it moves toward questions.

First they are seeking agreement, then practicing the back and forth with someone not a parent or teacher, then come the questions about life and what you do.

I really like conversing with kids, because it feels fine. Natural in the way that I am nor bored of it or that I got to think a lot about what I want to say next.

But I noticed some adults who don't have autism also have more difficulty really keeping a talk going with a kid than with other adults. While I don't have that problem, I think I can understand it and it looks as if that makes sense. So I don't think that's particularly bad or anything. Some adults I saw run out of appropriate responses, didn't know age-appropriate topics, just didn't think the same impulsive, childish way as the kid and had this mature, more socially orientated conversation style.

So I can see how that makes conversation hard, for non-autistic adults as well as autistic adults. This somehow different conversation style kids have might be more difficult to quickly tune in for autistic adults. That is a possible key point of autism after all, this inability or difficulty to rapidly tune into different social situation based on non-verbal skills and emotional expressions. I would spontaneously guess that naturally autistic adults are more often together with other adults and thus are more familiar with social rules that apply in conversations with adults than with the the conversation styles of kids.

This is one social situation I have never been able to adjust to. Talking to kids...blegh. I t just seems like such a pointless venture. And the fact that they require me to adjust my style of speaking, vocabulary and tone is just too much effort, on top of that, I feel like an idiot when pretending to relate to a kid. I can not pretend to be interested in what they are, or if they do like what I like, they still don't have the skills to converse about it in a manner that I find interesting. There's no dew discoveries to be made with children, just grubbly little sponges that make mess.

I think it is easier for me to a certain extent. I have no problem joking and kidding with my son's other friends. They are all boys and younger than him. But this girl, i just couldn't keep it going for some reason. It may be because i never really chatted with her before. I have told her things, but never really talked to her. And she isn't over as much as the boys are. May be why. Still the difficulty anyway. I do agree that kids skip the small talk and get right to the point. I like that.

I get on with kids the way I do with adults, I can tolerate pretty much anyone, but they make me uncomfortable. A minority I really like.

But I do find it harder with kids, because an adult will leave you alone (at least Swedish ones) if you don't make a lot of eye-contact, but the kids just keep looking and looking and I feel like they look right through me, like I'm made of glass with all my oddness on display. I'm just waiting for them to call me out on my weirdness. It happened with a 3-yearold today.

But then again, I couldn't talk to kids when I was one. I always spoke like an adult, topics, vocabulary, intonation, the whole lot. But now that I'm 27 and an academic, my formal speech style seems less off.