I always want to be alone

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I assumed OP meant IRL socialising. I love the online type like WP. I wouldn't be without that for anything.

i am very good at being isolated, and quite often i crave it or make sure i get it. this especially happens when i am engrossed in an art project. i do my socializing while i am working... but that is only one tattoo a day.
i like to keep life mellow.
right now everything is spare time... it is all my time. i am living a vagabond life travelling all over, staying and working with tattooers i know. for some reason this is perfect for me.

In a way, yes. Socialising is hard for me so I like to have some peace and quiet.

spazzergasm wrote

I think that I am incapable of reciprocating a friendship, and the few people that I have felt a connection to, or a bond with, are those with whom I have lived. In fact, it is not the interaction that I am adverse to, it is the burden of having friends/acquaintances.

As for WP, l won't make any friends here. I started reading WP because I was interested in learning more about autism, and I am temporarily staying because I keep learning. I contribute because it is boring to just read everyone else's comments and, as I said, it is not interaction that bothers me, it is relationships.



I have read this view here before, and I understand that many AS crave friendship/relationships. However, I choose to live in complete social isolation and am very pleased with my life. In fairness, I do average about one telephone conversation a week with family members.

hmm. i cannot say i understand at all, but if you are happy, i suppose it's well. .

I get this response a lot too, drives me nuts. For example I was describing a job to my step dad and was saying how great it would be because I could work from home and not have to deal with people, and he kept insisting that after a while I would grow tired of solitude and need to socialize. Can't seem to get people to understand this IS how I really feel!

Anyway, I prefer solitude probably 90-95% of the time, but I don't mind if people wish to take part in an activity I am doing, as long as they don't alter the planned activity...

A job like that sounds perfect. May I ask what kind of job it was?

you are just like me that is what i call nice life,life close to the nature

Apart from work, just about all my time is spare time. Except for three hrs a day each weekend, and the two hours for my telenovelas. All I do is just...dream and dream sometimes. Or just play my ds or read.

Thats good to know that there is more people feeling like I do. My husband is abroad for 1½ week and then I see so clear how socially cut off I really am
I have no friends and hardly talk to other people and I dont mind it. Im always busy with my own stuff and have so many ideas. I get disturbed if other people by their excistense is interrupting me...

But, I really miss to have friends online. To chat with and someone who knows me a little bit more than my random words on this big forum..
And I worry now about my photocourse if I need people to take part in our assignments. If so then Im dead as I have NOBODY to ask to help me!!

Otherwise Im perfectly fine alone

Most the time I am indifferent and would rather be ignored, especially while shopping.

Medical insurance billing. I received a certificate from my local community college and I am looking for open positions. Unfortunately, after I took the classes I found out that to stay at home I have to test for a national certification to be employable. I would do this, but it costs $500-$1000 to prepare (texts and exams) so I have to save up first.

(The job is simple, looking up and coding medical conditions and services provided, and filling out insurance forms)

I can go either way, but I would prefer to have friends.

ARGH. i loathe when they come to "assist" me. i do not need the opinion of someone who is paid to give a false one....and i find the attention stressful. shopping is unpleasant as is, and a private matter, or best done with close friends/family only.
usually if they come up to me, i actually head for the door immediately, after recupricating the greeting in an awkward way.

I also like to be left alone to my own devices when I'm shopping. After all, I'm the one who's going to pay for it, not the other person, so I can make my own choice, even if I buy the cheapest or more expensive of whatever it is.

Deep down inside, I know I really want to be alone. I think about the ideas of actually making friends and going out with others but I never actually do it or could really go through with it. I always back out and will always find an excuse to not make it happen. The main reason I want to be alone is because I am at peace when I'm alone and I'm very comfortable alone because that's been my way of life for many years. When you are alone, there's no conflicts, hassles or embarrassments. There's no nothing that can go wrong and I'd rather keep it that way; to actually get a social life and be around people all the time would be very emotionally draining for me. Not to mention many conflicts could come up. I also am not one to trust others. I will admit there are times when I crave female attention but that's just hormones knocking, my brain always wins.