Completely unaware of purposeful social networking?

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This "networking" thing reminds me of a Kids in the Hall sketch. I can't remember most of the details, but a child adopts a business man (like a stray animal or something) and takes care of him, but his mother says he has to be with his own kind in the wild. So he takes the business man to an office park where groups of business be meet, exchange cards, laugh, and walk off together. The kid makes his business man go out by himself and he exchanges cards, laughs, and leaves with the other business men.

I heard that one differently on an episode of 20 Rock. It was her fathers funeral and the question was how does she get to meet the man again. The answer you're NOT supposed to give is, murder her mother.

There is a difference between brown nosing and networking. Sucking up to your boss for personal gain in my opinion is wrong, dishonest and disrespectful. When you network with people you aren't necessarily a "friend", you are an aquaintence that has similar career skills, and that person may one day say that they know someone who can do this or that really well, and you may want to interview him/her for a job. A good reference is just a good reference, it doesn't mean that you have to be "friends", you just have to be aquainted enough with that person, and have a good rapport with that person for them to recommend you for something. The more people you know in your career field, the more opportunities have a chance to present themselves.

Networking and brown nosing are totally different. I agree, I hate brown nosers, but it never hurts to "meet" people who may be able to give you a connection someday. People who are not your friends necessarily, but you like each other nevertheless.

re: riddle

the one year has no real significance-just sometime later-you are both incorrect-congratulations

p.s. the correct answer is one that never would have occurred to me

This is very common. People will go to great lengths to form friendships with someone who has a good job (managerial position or someone who does hiring)because they think they will get something out of it and either doormat or take for granted all the people they view as being less significant. That's one reason I would hate being in charge. All these fake people would be competing and I would know they aren't being real, they just want something, so I would becomes friends with the person who is doing the least to befriend me and all the others would resent me for it.


Generally, if you work really hard to please someone who will give you a good reference, they might. Trouble is, there might be a lot of competetion. More than one person knows how to play this game and there they all are doing everything they can to get on the good sides of the one in charge, even though only one of them can get promoted at a time. You might be able to get a good reference if you are nice. There's sometimes, a "glass ceiling" which means only one or a few get promoted and everyone else stays where they are.

Sometimes people bribe others with money or gifts. They take them to dinners., buy them flowers. There's lots of things they do to get noticed hoping it's one way to get ahead in life.


I know about it, I'm not good at it. I can do it, but, I don't appear genuine. While someone else gets the "ooooh that's so nice. You are really thoughful person. I really like you!" I get the, "Wonder what she wants?", "I wish she wouldn't give me anything or try to be nice to me, then, I have to be nice to her." It's not worth all the hassle. I have played the game before but not with as much success as others experience. It would be in your best interest to, at least, try and see where it takes you. The results are often mixed. Some people can look good this way while others look like they are trying to "buy" friendships or "bribe" other's trust.

I think that would require that the groom married her sister but that would not be consistent with the information that she had never met him (her future brother in law) unless they were a severely disfunctional family.

I think this may be a riddle that requires intuition rather than intellect and so we may not discover the answer

If you want I can tell you.

Go ahead

OK, she kills her sister because she knows it is likely the mystery man of her dreams will be at the funeral. I know it's psycho and a bit of a stretch but that's the answer.

A connection doesn't have to be a bad thing, it just depends on who is involved. I think of it more as someone who you don't have to be best friends with, but they'll help you and you'll help them. I mean, the Amish do this naturally..... We have lost that sense of community, so now it is forced, while wearing a "power suit". That's just how I see it.

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Ouch

I know,
Blindspot149 my response was "WTF who thinks that way? Sociopaths apparently.

Rule of thumb: It's not who you know, it's who you blow.

I somehow read that last bit before going back and reading the actual riddle.. seeing the answer (or something close to the answer) before reading the riddle always ruins it! LOL
I don't get why she can't just ask someone who the guy is.


But there was one that Kris said he got asked at a job interview that I thought was a good one:
You're driving along in your car, which can fit only two people (you can't cram any more in,) and there's a horrible storm. You see three people at a bus stop. One is a little old lady who is obviously very sick, and is going to die if they don't get to the hospital immediately. The second is an old friend, who saved your life. The third is your soul-mate-- you've never met them before, and you might never meet them again, but when you see him/her you realize this is the person you're supposed to be with. (You don't have a cell phone or anything.)
What do you do?

Ask your friend to drive the sick lady to the hospital and stay with your soulmate at the bus stop in the rain?

Woah.. Kris said that he got it right at the interview, and that apparently nobody had before. I did too.. is it maybe somehow related to thinking differently? Like, is it an aspie/geek thing?

I would never drive a 2 seater car. There would be no extra space in it.