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PlatedDrake
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02 Nov 2009, 12:24 pm

I often did this growing up, i had convinced myself of something happening that didnt (father was usually the target of these thoughts). It got to the point that I had believed my father didnt care about me, hated that i didnt live up to his expectations, etc. Still feel that way now, but it isnt as severe. That aside, there would be times i did this and would be correct (usually in a job setting). Outside of that, not too sure . . . dont hang out with friends that much.


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02 Nov 2009, 2:34 pm

Murphy's Law is the Aspie mantra:


Anything that CAN go wrong, WILL go wrong, at the WORST POSSIBLE MOMENT.



What kind of idiot wouldn't want to be prepared for every potential eventuality?
(and its not just about social anxiety, I do the same thing over finances and every other aspect of life....)



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02 Nov 2009, 2:50 pm

it's also because we don't like change so we think that changes won't work.



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02 Nov 2009, 9:47 pm

Yeah, I do this. I'm in therapy for chronic depression, anxiety, developing coping skills, that sort of thing. I've had a couple of therapists call me on this. It's especially bad when something has gone really wrong in a similar situation in the past. I have a tendency to perseverate on worst case scenarios, especially ones involving failure/ rejection. That can really cause my anxiety level to skyrocket. I wonder if this is directly related to AS.


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02 Nov 2009, 9:53 pm

My anxiety makes me do this and my mom says it's a good thing. It makes me think.



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02 Nov 2009, 11:42 pm

People around me listen, then totally disregard what said and give me a look of "where did you get that ridiculous idea".

There has been many times where something goes wrong and I have about 10 different reasons as to why, but people walk away when I get to the 2-3rd reason, or if they're stuck in a car with me they talk over me and I have to stop because I don't see the reason why I should keep going, obviously they don't want to hear it.


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03 Nov 2009, 12:24 am

I used to be really really negative, now I may have some feelings and thoughts like that. I'm not as bad as my mum though.


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03 Nov 2009, 10:21 am

mitharatowen wrote:
I want to prepare for whatever possible things might go wrong so I try to anticipate them and come up with ways to counter them. And in voicing my concerns about how things might go wrong, I am perceived as complaining......<snip>........You're apparently not supposed to point out the potential flaws in a situation because that makes you a negative person and makes everyone disheartened or something.

Yep......I've been there too. No doubt there's something valid in the NT approach (for them), but they'd do well to communicate it a little better. It's not productive for them to just say "stop putting a damper on everything," that's a misjudgement.



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27 Nov 2010, 4:49 pm

Constantly. I call this "living in the wreckage of my future." :?


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