Emotionally Sensitive

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Emotionally numb myself. I very rarely (almost to the point of never) get frustrated, angry, sad, upset, or happy. I never cry. I do have fears though. Anxiety is abundant as well.

I don't want to sound like a hard%*$ but if my entire immediate family were to die today, I probably wouldn't have any trouble moving on after... an hour or so. Hard to imagine though because it hasn't happened.

Anger is one of the more interesting ones to me. I don't ever get angry. Someone can pull out infront of me on a 55 mph road and go 30 mph, no passing zone. I'll just eat it, no sweat. My brother who has anger management issues would probably have his entire day ruined.

I am. So much for saying we're all emotionless.

i am extremely emotional and sensitive with music movies books and such. also with the one or two people that dare know me well enough. hardly ever emotional or sensitive to other peoples emotions save for one or two i have known well for sometime.

I have always been emotionally sensitive. When I was younger emotional outbursts were a daily occurrence; but these days I am able to keep the tantrums (meltdowns) - the screaming, head banging, wall kicking - under control, which is probably due in large part by just getting older.

I get emotionally sensitive. Return of the Jedi is an emotional film. The climax is powerful. The scene in which Luke removes Vader's mask is moving, as well as the scene with the jedi ghosts. Revenge of the Sith is powerful. I feel depressed when Obi-Wan leaves Vader to die. I smile at the end because there is a sign of hope.

I am extremely emotionally sensitive and I find my emotions hard to control and many negative emotions cause the same reaction in me, crying, shouting, screaming etc. At home outbursts are common, one minute I'm happy then one thing makes me really frustrated then I end up going over the top again. The hardest emotion to control is probably anger, excitement, disapointment and frustration.
I am easily upset by comments and dwell on them for a long while afterwards. I avoid certain music because it makes me too emotional and I cry, most people say there's nothing wrong with it but I hate my intense emotions alot and I envy those that are numb. I even don't like being too excited either. A common thing that happens is I have a mix of emotions and I get frustrated because I can't identify what emotion it is and it becomes an all round negative experience, which can once again lead to outrbursts or crying. I can't deal with other's emotions very well either because I don't know who to respond to them or if it's a film character or an animal I get too affected by it and it's very uncomfortable.
When I took an emotional IQ test I got 69 and the "emotional control and maitanence" category was only 55.
Emotions suck. End of story.

I am very emotionally sensitive. I was teased as the "sissy sensitive boy" when I was little. Bad things happening to people I'm close to can send me into meltdown.

I get emotional over things that shouldn't matter and show/feel no emotion in situations where I should.


ME TOO! It can be handy to not fall apart when others are. To be able to be logical when all around you are emotional. BUT its really horrible and embarrasing when you get upset over something you KNOW shouldnt bother you at all! And even worse when people tell you to "get over it". I KNOW emotions are silly....I prefer logic/control! It isnt about being sorry for ourselves....it can be about selfloathing cos we can get "stuck" in feelings we do not know how to compute/process/accept.

>>I get emotional over things that shouldn't matter and show/feel no emotion in situations where I should. >>

This is sort of true for me. I experience a sort of variation of this. When something big happens such as a family member dying, some big planes crashing into some big buildings, the man I love moving 3,000 miles away, a bunch of people getting killed in a shooting, I tend to go numb. This is NOT because I don't care, but instead because it's just too big for me to process all at once. However, I'll generally weep inconsolably over the next little inconvenience/ annoyance I experience in these situations. When my grandmother died eight years ago, I just barely reacted. A couple of days later, I had to go to a doctor's appointment. I have some eating disorder/ body image related issues, and at that time I knew that I had gained weight. I also knew that the doctor would weigh me, and this prospect made me weep hysterically after I hadn't cried over the death of my grandmother. I felt like a horrible person, crying at the prospect of getting weighed at the doctor's when my grandmother had just died. I've had other similar experiences when other big emotional things have happened. I eventually realized the connection between a big thing happening and the hysterical tears over something minor that invariably occurred very shortly after. Until I made that connection, I just assumed that I was a bad person.
Other things get me emotional, too. I'll sometimes cry from stress or frustration. When I was in school, it wasn't unusual for me to break down crying in front of my laptop as I struggled to complete some paper or project. I always got everything done, but rarely without tears.
Failure and rejection also bring me to tears. I cried all four times I failed my driving test. I still don't have a license. I'll also get upset when I'm made to feel inferior in some way. (I know, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." That well meaning platitude means nothing to me) For instance, when people at work rewrite something I've already written out because my handwriting just isn't good enough for them. I may not actually cry, but I'll be quietly upset, and functioning less effectively for the rest of the day as a result. If I'm lucky, this snub will take place toward the end of the day.
I'll also sometimes tear up over books or movies. I'll admit that I bawled through a good portion of the later chapters of _Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows_ I was pretty sleep deprived at that time though, so that might have played a role, too.
Once again, I have rambled on too long. My point is, yes, I am emotionally sensitive, but in a somewhat odd way. Now, I make my exit...

For me it varies. If a person is trying to upset me I usually don't get it at first so I do not become distressed. This often upsets the other person.
The first memory I have of that happening is from the 1st grade. Some other girls decided it would be fun to form a club and tell me I couldn't join. I was utterly confused as to why they would form a club based on nothing and make an inordinate amount of effort to let me know I could not join that which I had no interest in joining.... it took me a long time to find out they were teasing me.
However, I can become angry fairly easily.

It makes sense to me that many people on the spectrum would be very emotionally sensitive. Many must deal with a great amount of stress on a daily basis, and years of people not understanding them, years of not understanding themselves, years of trying to change themselves to fit in, and many may misinterpret interactions which were not unfriendly as being unfriendly making it seem the whole world is against them. If a person is already under stress something that would seem a small offence to another may just be too much for them.

As for males on the spectrum being sensitive I have a thought about it I am not sure is correct.
I am a female and because of my difficulties with understanding other people and missing unspoken social rules I did not really understand all the different expectations of males and females as separate sexes until I was 6 and behaved in a way that was, apparently, inappropriate for a female and was reprimanded by a teacher. I still harbor many masculine traits and while I contribute much of it to the way I naturally am, I do suspect I would be different had I developed like most little girls- that is, to see that mommy is a girl and I am a girl so I am going to act just like mommy and not do boy things because boy things are icky.... or whatever goes through a little girls head. @_@
Even as I came into my teen years I was learning things about the socially "correct" male behavior, female behavior and their differences.

How that relates to what I was thinking.... Young males learn at an extremely early age that they must act like little men and that everything from excessive crying to the colour pink is for girls and that, as a boy, they must not have certain attributes. In different cultures and times male expectations vary somewhat and what is/was learned varied slightly. While it is likely that the average male is less outwardly emotional than the average female it seems unlikely that the degree to which most cultures expect it is natural. Perhaps some males on the spectrum do not learn how to behave "properly" at the crucial age at which children's brains are most open to learning and to being conditioned. Therefore, they do not learn how to cope with emotional situations in a "manly" way so they cope in a way that is more natural for them and it just happens that their society view it as feminine. As they get older and become more aware of social rules they become distressed as they realize their behavior is "unmanly." However, it is difficult to change at the age they discover these things. Even the way they deal with the stress of feeling "unmanly" or overly sensitive will be in the way they learned to cope at a young age, which is that which society and now they deem as inappropriate.

Perhaps I should note, I like sensitive men who will cry when they feel like it and who are not afraid to admit they have feelings. As far as dating, I think there are many women who would appreciate a less stereotypical male. As long as he is not crying in the middle of business meetings and can function I do not see the problem or why he would need to change anything. People vary, why can't men vary in how intensely they experience emotion, what they feel emotion about, and how they express it? O_o Variences in the way females behave and how emotional we are is more accepted. As I disagree with trying to make less emotional men behave in a way that is uncomfortable for them I think it is absurd to want an emotionally sensitive man to be less so.

I only talked about men Women vary as well, so some are highly emotional. I am not but I do not have a problem with those who are.