Do you get upset when people die?

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Unfortunately as we all know death is inevitable. Knowing that I will lose someone as my mom is just too unbearable to think about, I just push it to the back of my mind. The reason I suppose I would feel emotion for my mom as opposed to anyone else is the fact that we are emotionally connected. We have a bond and I don't share that with just about anyone else. I guess if this is the same with you, ending that bond might allow you to stop worrying about the loss. But I don't want to end my bond and I'm sure you wouldn't want to either. Not much advice, but it's all I have.

No, I don't get upset over people dieing, or pets dieing...

I feel completely detached though I do care about some people.

That too.. Someone suffering a lot from a terminal illness and wanting to die seems sadder than them finally dying. But I think in that case, you kinda mourn them before they die.

With my mum its a mix as we have a connection that I know I can't make with anyone else but I also rely on her heavily. I have a very unsupportive family and my mum is the only one who's there for me so I would miss her on an emotional and physical level. Other than my mum the only other living things I connect with are my pets and that takes a very long time to make a bond. I usually have more attachment to inanimate objects. If someone damages something I feel bad for it the same as normal people do if I person gets hurt.

Ditto that. I can never watch people destroying some items, I always sympathise with them. Same thing with trees, flowers etc.

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Depends on the person. I've had three friends and my brother die in the last few years. One friend's death bothered me a great deal, two - no reaction, and I was happy to hear about my brother.

I am devestated at deaths, and for a long time after. Even thinking years after of a lost loved one tears me up. Same for pets.

If it was someone I know and love that dies then yes, but if it someone I never knew then no. When my mom's mom died I didn't cry becuase I never knew her, and I am glad that I didn't becuase I have not heard good thing about her. I have never had a pet die but thing about it makes me want to cry.

How absorbed are you by your obsessions? How much do they isolate you from other people?

If you don't have enough memories of good conversations, time spent together and such, then that might be why you don't feel sad about them being dead. If your mind is preoccupied with your obsessions, and your obsessions happen to be both intense and isolate you from everyone else, then other people aren't gonna be a huge loss.

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It depends who, and how they died.

ruveyn

No I do not.

Strangely enough, I don't get upset when people die, but it always would upset me deeply when an animal died. I remember bursting into tears when a dog got hit by a car on the street. When my grandfather died (when I was five), I didn't cry at all in the beginning, but later on I've realized that he's not there anymore and how much I've missed him, and I sobbed for a while all by myself in my room, recalling the happy moments we have spent together. I'd say that I was even closer to him than I've ever been to my mom. My crying over my grandfather, however, was not as intense as my crying for that dog on the street.

It bothers me when people die, but I don't always know how to express it. I usually end up shutting down. One of the things I still hold a grudge about has to do with my grandmother's funeral. I just wanted to sit there for a while, by her grave, to try and make sense out of everything that just happened.

When they refused, and had me get in the car, it was frustrating. I'm still upset about it, particularly how my grandfather reacted after her death, but she was the one person I could trust, depend on. Now I'm hesitant to rely on anyone.

I understand how ya feel; the death of a particular relative on my Dad's side pretty much marked the final person I liked of his family. With my Aunt Adele gone, there really is no chemistry between me and my family; I don't like them, and they don't like me.

I talk to some occasionally and have a few on Facebook, but we don't really communicate too much.

I don't really feel much about death unless I was very close to the person. My grandfather, for example. He was my father, pretty much. My dad never knew how to be one, and still doesn't. He was always just the party guy you drank with. My grandfather (on mom's side) was like a mentor to me, and he was very protective of me. He died in 06 and I was devastated.

When his dad died I didn't really feel anything. In fact, I think I made myself cry over his death so I didn't have to go to school a couple days later.

My grandfather on my dad's side is another story. I went through emotional hell with him. I didn't care at all that he was sick and dying, and I felt nothing when he finally did die. Despite his warm moments, his tyrannical personality overpowered that.

There are some people I don't know, like certain musicians and actors, that I'd probably be very upset over their death. But I think all of that is quite normal.

im the same as you, it almost seems like most people are affected by just about anyone that dies or they just pretend to be. it only affects me if that person actually meant something to me.