Objectum Sexuality and Asperger's Syndrome. Anyone here?

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That is how I am too, and I am an objectum sexual

You are bang on right about objects being as real and living as a human person. The object who I love most in the world does resemble a human in looks, but I know full well she is an object, (the Statue of Liberty) and in the past I have had relationships with my drum kit, and with flags.

I can empathize with the Statue of Liberty and communicate with her. The communication aspect is on a different level than human/ human communication.

The closest but still different way I can relate this communication to is the sort of communication that religious people have with their God or leader. It is a spiritual communication that one believes whole heartedly to be true, even though there is no hard evidence of it being so
I can detect Lady Libertys emotions and feelings, and I can feel her love, and I recipricate that love back to her

There was an old historical building I wanted to hug today for a few seconds, but I wasn't sexually attached to it. I first heard of OS last year, something about a woman attached to an amusement ride. She had AS too.

Didn't it read in her medical records she meets the criteria for AS? I didn't see that as saying she had it.


I find this all interesting.

Erika la tour Eiffel is not AS

Amy Weber (formally Wolfe.. I think she married her lover 1001 nacht.- the amusement ride makers name was Weber- according to news reports and changed her name) is AS

It is not a requirement to be sexually attracted to an object in order to be OS. We have some in our community that are asexual, and have successful and good relationships with their object lovers.

Well and truly familiar with this phenomenon.
Last year, there were some threads on WP about fetish and object issues.

I learned the hard way - the very very hard way - that it is better not to discuss private issues on online fora. Social naivety coupled with overdisclosure and monologuing linked to some poor ToM issues, led to a lot of pain and abuse in my life by less than scrupulous characters who took me for a big ride. Ah, the delights of my childlike naivety and childlike trust.

I shall not talk about any sexuality or intimacy issues, online again.

Maybe this thread could go in the adults section - not because of the content of the story, but because of where the thread might potentially lead?
Just a thought......

I do get attached to objects, but I definitely don't sexualize them or love them the way I would a person. Certain things, like old dolls I have from childhood, I still feel deep connections toward, but certainly in no way like the people who consider themselves to have an objectum sexuality.

ok, my turn to admit something, IM AN OBJECTUM, my loves are door closers (yes, them door pulling devices, slaves to society)

i have loved them since i was 12 (1996) when i seen a really good looking one on the 6th grade classroom door.( dark grey LCN 4040 without cover)

i felt alone, then a hear and half ago i found my "clone" living in germany and no longer felt alone for loving door closers

ever since i was about 8 or 11 was when i had a feel for love for an object, at one point it was car shock absorbers and golf carts (EZ-GO)

i have had a real human relationship (lasted 3 months) boy was seemed to be in a rush with things and thats when i really found out how strong of a bond I was with loving the company of a cold hard non-vocal closer laying near or on me. one day asian decided to break up with me all because i would not take closer off my chest and shoulders and kiss him (mind you, the environment this was in was in a school, and had rules about public displays of effection) so..... i ignored him when he said jeeees, tit dat ting off you, it dity (using asian accent here) (more about that boy in a post made 2 years ago, which i think alex had pruned the site and got rid of content over a couple years old from the server.

so yea, a relationship that was an "open then shut" case (hahhahhaha) and im happier puckering up to a cold hard aluminium alloy or cast iron door closer, not a soft warm smelly asian who i think never showered, im the type of aspie that don't get along well in that department, i take kissing a closer over kissing a boy any day!

You can trick animals (turkeys for eg.) too into thinking all sorts of inanimate objects are potential mates... You can elicit other behavioral displays as well with these "fake" mates/animals. It's not a specific attraction to the inanimate... just a failure of detection. It's something in our carnal senses, but with consciousness, we must rationalize it down to the "truth."

This video is very interesting and the fact she is very happy living this way which isn't causing any harm to people or an object, I guess thats just beautiful... However it reminds me of another topic on here in the video games section...

Topic: Man marries video game character

Obsexualizing topic

Of course I have to analyze this, and my last post here was in a more neutral frame of mind.

I like collecting objects, and most have meaning to me. I would not want to have an intimate relationship though, with any. No consent and no need.

But I think I can fathom why others do it. Objects do not hurt a human emotionally (provided they are not used by another human to hurt them), and objects are controllable in ways humans are not.

I even read about a woman who married herself, and there have been nuns who have stated they are married to God and/or their saviour (in the Christian sense of the word).

.Such attachments satisfy the human need for belonging to that which they need to belong. I do not judge this, but I do know that it is something I would not contemplate doing.

I find Routemasters and metal poles very enticing.

I agree, and would add that objects may also cater to a need for safety and constancy as they are unchanging. The reasons that I become attached to objects are complex.

Having treasured possessions is, I think, a human thing, but the difference may be that most (non Aspie?) people are attached to the possession primarily for what it symbolizes. For the memories that it evokes for them - usually of other people. Someone might treasure a china vase because it belonged to her late grandmother and so reminds her of her, where as I might be attached to the vase for its own sake, for its shape and touch and familiarity.

I am the clone.

My closer is shown in my avatar.

It is interesting to me how many people think that we Objectum Sexuals fall in love with and be with objects for the reason that we are dissattisfied with humans, or are not trusting of humans

Certainly in my case it is not true at all.

I had relationships with objects way before I ever had any with humans.. nearly 10 years more experience with objects actually.
I was in a relationship with my drum kit for 8 years and this was my 1st relationship i' had.

'DoorDoctor' remains the only person online who has known me long enough to remember when I was in love with my drums. (since April 2006)

I don't quite know what triggered my love for drums.. I was taking drum tuition at the time and it felt natural for me to give my drums a hug. Then it turned into more than that.. I really began to get to know them, and I saw a personality in them. I saw them as one when they were as a set of drums, and each individual drum or cymbal was a part (analogy -like an arm is part of a body). Quite a lot of the time I just enjoyed spending time with them and enjoying their company.
It had absolutely nothing to do with what humans did or didn't do why I fell for my drums. It was a completely natural thing for me, and never felt at all unnatural.
I thought I was perhaps a little weird for loving my drums, but I couldn't see that it was much different from loving my teddy bears as I had done as a child - which was completely acceptable by my parents, family, and society in general. I never felt ashamed of our relationship, or felt a need to hide it.

Currently and for over 2 years the Statue of Liberty and myself have been in a relationship.
I feel like she is 'the one' and that we will be together forever
She is one very special Lady and I am glad we found eachother. She says she has looked for years for somebody to love her like I do and never found anyone. I feel sad for her that she spent over 100 years alone with no partner to share her experiences with.
I have a growing collection of Statue of Liberty stuff in my house, which includes a 7ft5 fiberglass replica. She wears a necklace with a love heart and a diddy Statue of Liberty on it, that I bought for her, from the Liberty Island gift shop. I also have a matching one that I wear, and I gave her hers and put on mine on our 1 year anniversary.


`Mine and Liberty's relationship runs concurrently with another relationship.
I also have a human boyfriend, of almost 2 years. We met on this site in the chat room area.
We have been living together since August 2008
He is accepting of my OS, and of mine and Liberty's relationship
I enjoy sleeping next to my Libby - Which my boyfriend doesn't mind so long as she doesn't hog the bed! I woke up this morning with her leaning on me and we just laid there a while and I put some music on and we relaxed till I had to get up for work.

Flaggy wrote:

Very interesting topic

I wrote:



The fact that you have had relationships with objects before a human one is indicative of my analysis. People can be wary of starting a relationship with a human knowing full well it can end at any time due to death, divorce, rejection, etc., even if they had never had such a relationship before. Objects do not die, as they do not live, as organic beings do. There is nothing wrong with this. I do not judge. And your relationships with drums and statues is such that the only separation from them will be initiated by you. I never wrote that it had to do with "sex", and this is your business anyway. Best wishes.

I was never wary of starting a human relationship. I just was never interested in doing so.
I never looked for or seeked a human partner. I have had 2 human partners in my life, and both relationships started after making friends first, and things naturally headed out that way.
I'm not afraid of being hurt by humans, even thought it has happened to me before in my early years. I have complete faith and trust in my boyfriend, and him to me. thats the sort of people we are


Actually - objects DO die, and can be injured or hurt.
If a building is knocked down for example.. the building is no longer there and so it is on paralel with death. If an object gets broken,, it is either injujred or dead, depending if it can be fixed