Has anyone ever done this to you? What's it called?

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If these NTs know you are clueless, then they think you did not notice what they did.

I would personally loathe two people standing together like that and talking at me. Seems creepy.

It doesn't necessarly have to be an unkind thing. How about a scenario like this:



Jane, Karen, and Jim all know each other and are socializing. At the moment, Jim is standing somewhere else and only Jane and Karen are together, talking to one another.

Jane (looking over at Jim): He's so funny. I don't know what it is about Jim, but I really like him. He's a good guy.

Karen: Yeah. You know, he's a real expert on Ancient China.

Jane: Oh, I know! In fact, have you noticed that no matter what the conversation is about, he finds a way to connect it to Ancient China?

Karen: Yeah, and he gets that twinkle in his eye when he's talking about it. It's like he suddenly lights up. It's kind of cute.

Jane: Tee hee! You're right! Oh here he comes....


A bit later, they are all talking about the state of the local school district, and Jim suddenly lights up and makes a comment about how school was conducted in Ancient China, becoming energized and animated. Karen gives a little nudge to Jane, as if to say, "See? There it is! There's that cute thing he does!"



It's not negative or hateful in this case. They like Jim, quirks and all, and they enjoy seeing the way he gets when he talks about Ancient China. It's part of what makes him Jim.

If Jim sees that, and wonders what it means, then, if Karen notices that he looks confused, she can say, "Jane and I were just talking about how much you know about Ancient China, and how all kinds of other topics make you think of it. We think that's really neat that you have such a strong interest. Your whole face lights up when you talk about it. That's why I gave her a little nudge, because I just notice that you were doing it."

they will pretty much be making fun of you every time

I could put this in one of my stories. The nudging thing that is.


Doris nudged Ruthie and whispered.

"Oh look at Kit, see how bratty she is, so jealous of her sister. I wonder when she will grow up?'

If I'm having a conversation with two other people and I make a statement and I notice that one nudges the other I know that what I just said is being mocked, I just don't know why.

My first thought was, "Does the person have a tic or something?"... so I asked my husband. His first response was that it could be a signal for the other person to say something like, "Oh we have to go now, I have an appointment" so they could run away. But he says there could be a million reasons for it, it depends on the situation... some being not so bad signals like what elderwanda said. But what do I know... I was thinking tics. Heh.

"The Nudge" could be an episode of Seinfeld.

Ooh! That reminds me of something I'm going to start another thread about.

PaganMom

They were makeing fun of you. I've had that happen to me, many times. It still happens, once in a while. It got really bad, when I was working in this factory, 10 to 14 years ago. I've started hanging out with some younger girls who happened to be from a rough city, close to the city that I live in. They were very worldly whores, to put it nicely. They knew how unworldly I am, so they started asking me, "Do you drive? Do you drink? Do you smoke? Do you smoke pot? Do you have sex? Have you had sex? Do you go to parties? Have you ever kissed a man? Do you want a man? How would you like to come to the bar with us, sometime on a Friday night on pay day? You might meet a really nice guy!" A really nice guy to do what with? To shag with? No thank you!

If we practice the Nagual way of the Toltecs, we will not assume and never take things personally and in that way we will be able to erradicate poison in the world with which we send evil in the world or create hell on earth while we could have heaven.