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04 Dec 2009, 7:45 pm

Do you NOT have an eye contact issue?

UGH! I still have eye contact issue and its been my problem for a very long time... However I can look into peoples eyes for a possible short period of time and then I end up looking at something else... But thats normally with my mates.

I know some people think its rude and irritating and it for some stupid reason it hurts me...

But then again, I would of thought that its improved more than it used to... idk?


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04 Dec 2009, 7:53 pm

i do not consider my lack of eye contact an issue.



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04 Dec 2009, 8:02 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
kip wrote:
I've learned to stare at noses and eyebrows, mainly because of my dad shouting at me to look at him all the time. It's enough to fool most people, except the most observant. I learned this trait though, so I'm not sure if it counts as not having eye contact issues.



I do that except I stare at their mouths or nose or hair or ears or just their face or at something ugly they have on their face like a mole. That's why I find it so easy now. I think that's fake eye contact. Eye contact is an excuse to look at fat people or something ugly on them. Hey it's eye contact at least :lol:


Yeah, but I think people are usually aware if they have a creepy mole with hairs sprouting out of it on the end of their nose, and they will get self-conscious if you stare at it. Or not.



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04 Dec 2009, 10:28 pm

It used to be a problem for me....not so much now though.



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04 Dec 2009, 10:32 pm

elderwanda wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
kip wrote:
I've learned to stare at noses and eyebrows, mainly because of my dad shouting at me to look at him all the time. It's enough to fool most people, except the most observant. I learned this trait though, so I'm not sure if it counts as not having eye contact issues.



I do that except I stare at their mouths or nose or hair or ears or just their face or at something ugly they have on their face like a mole. That's why I find it so easy now. I think that's fake eye contact. Eye contact is an excuse to look at fat people or something ugly on them. Hey it's eye contact at least :lol:


Yeah, but I think people are usually aware if they have a creepy mole with hairs sprouting out of it on the end of their nose, and they will get self-conscious if you stare at it. Or not.



"You don't like people giving you eye contact?"

If you look at their faces, they can't even tell.



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04 Dec 2009, 11:32 pm

I think I'm actually starting not to! I mean, I don't look at eyes; but I have actually begun to make a habit of looking in the direction of people's faces. Today my counselor told me that she thought I was making very good eye contact. Muahaha, my deception is working!! (But seriously, is it less functional than "real" eye contact, if it allows her to feel whatever connection she needs to feel, while still allowing me to read whole-body language without being distracted by a bunch of eyeballs?) I think I'm better at reading posture and movement than faces. I learned posture and movement on cats, and a lot of it seems to be similar to people. :)


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05 Dec 2009, 2:49 am

elderwanda wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
kip wrote:
I've learned to stare at noses and eyebrows, mainly because of my dad shouting at me to look at him all the time. It's enough to fool most people, except the most observant. I learned this trait though, so I'm not sure if it counts as not having eye contact issues.


I do that except I stare at their mouths or nose or hair or ears or just their face or at something ugly they have on their face like a mole. That's why I find it so easy now. I think that's fake eye contact. Eye contact is an excuse to look at fat people or something ugly on them. Hey it's eye contact at least :lol:


Yeah, but I think people are usually aware if they have a creepy mole with hairs sprouting out of it on the end of their nose, and they will get self-conscious if you stare at it. Or not.


often, especially in my youth, I had to remind the guys "Hey, my eyes are up here, dude!"


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