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23 Dec 2009, 1:54 pm

KevinLA wrote:
I would put this topic on the parenting board, but any opinions there would be biased.


I don't get having children. We have an 8 and 3 year old visiting and they are a pain in the butt. Is it normal for children that age to be almost completely out of control. I am sure one of them has ADD.

The return on having children doesn't seem to make up for the time, money, and hassle in raising them. Yet most people seem to have them.I read a study where they surveyed parents, and the net effect of having children was a decrease in happiness.

Does anyone here agree?


I agree. When I see and talk to the young children in my family, I enjoy talking to them and stuff, but they are annoying at times and it's far too much hassle and money to have children.

It's a personal decision for sure, but for me I know I will never have kids. I just wish my parents would stop trying to change my mind and telling me that I'll end up doing it anyway.



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23 Dec 2009, 4:12 pm

Back when I was single, I used to say "I can't afford it" and "I don't have a partner." They were both true. Then when I got married, I got asked by people "When are you going to have kids?" "Are you going to have kids?" Yes yes but we don't know when. It will happen when it does. My husband and I gotta start trying again this weekend.

I wonder if another reason for having kids is tax breaks. That's a selfish reason there and illogical because why have kids to have tax breaks if you have to spend your money on them? So basically you aren't really saving any money right?

Some people use their kids to get money from the state and you know what, they don't even support their kids at all or give them what they need because they are too selfish.



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23 Dec 2009, 4:28 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
Back when I was single, I used to say "I can't afford it" and "I don't have a partner." They were both true. Then when I got married, I got asked by people "When are you going to have kids?" "Are you going to have kids?" Yes yes but we don't know when. It will happen when it does. My husband and I gotta start trying again this weekend.

I wonder if another reason for having kids is tax breaks. That's a selfish reason there and illogical because why have kids to have tax breaks if you have to spend your money on them? So basically you aren't really saving any money right?

Some people use their kids to get money from the state and you know what, they don't even support their kids at all or give them what they need because they are too selfish.


Kids cost loaaads of money, the tax breaks won't cover it at all.

For me, I wouldn't have kids because I don't see the point. For some it gives them a purpose, but I already have a purpose in my life, and having kids would almost certainly screw that up completely.



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23 Dec 2009, 9:41 pm

I dont know.

I like children. I have some young cousins and I enjoy spending time with them. But the problem is that after about 4 hours or so I am quiet overwhelmed by their constant need for interaction and attention. They are fine to babysit on occasion, but I can't imagine having to deal with them all the time. I don't think I could handle constantly dealing with children.