keowyn wrote:
You know, a simple yet direct "You know, that came across as pretty rude, what you did just there." You might be surprised by how that brings folks up short. If the antagonist has one iota of self-respect or ability to self-reflect, then you should get a mumbled "sorry" and life moves on.
Also, don't ever hesitate to set boundaries. It is perfectly fine to note "Look, that's really none of your business." You are by no means obligated to be a diplomatic representative of the entire autistic population, out to educate and win over everybody out there. It'd be nice if you get a chance to do that occasionally, let's say if you confront someone over their rudeness and they genuinely express remorse, then curiosity. It's not unheard of for friendships to start this way.
It might be helpful to keep in mind that if someone expresses an interest in your behavior, that it may be due to some of their own insecurities. Maybe they have some "quirks" that they keep under wraps and are looking up to you as an example of how to be comfortable in their own skin.
Just a couple of thoughts. My best to you and Bearsac!
Thanks, and good answer. I've been bullied when I was in high school and I really don't want to tolerate people being a jerk to me anymore. I guess I could tell people if they express an interest while not trying to be a jerk.
09 Jan 2010, 3:41 pm
