Anyone ever find themselves getting overly attached...

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Heh, since I mentioned online dating, I figured I'd go ahead and post this message I got after taking a slew of initial personality tests at eharmony.com (they match people based on the test results).

A bit discouraging when a dating service thinks you're so odd that they won't allow you to throw money at them in an attempt to find a suitable match, eh?

That you for the advice, Jayshaw. I'm just afraid I may scare him off if he wants to keep the relationship online and platonic.



I don't know... 1 out of 5 people is a lot of people that they are reportedly unable to "match up." It sounds like the problem is more with their system than with you, Jayshaw.

That's understandable. Keep in mind that he could be thinking the exact same thing, though. One of you has to make the first move at some point. I have to admit that I have the same sort of difficulty with letting people know that I have feelings for them, but it's easier to give an objective opinion when you aren't the person involved in the situation.

Also, even if he is not interested in you romantically, you'd probably be better off having that knowledge than wondering about it. Chances are good that if he isn't interested in a relationship that he'll still be willing to continue being your friend, provided that you don't give him some sort of ultimatum. If he isn't, you have to ask yourself how much he really cared about you in the first place.

Oh, also, call me "Jay" if you would. There would have been a space between the "Jay" and the "Shaw" in my username, except for the fact that wrongplanet.net usernames don't seem to allow spaces. Being referred to as JayShaw is just odd, although I know I brought it upon myself by choosing the username.



I wasn't being serious. I just found the entire thing to be quite amusing, so I thought I'd share.

Not really, but it happened in real life at least twice with respect to members of the opposite sex. In high school, I so sure this one girl had to be the perfect match that I was totally blinded by any others making an attempt. This included one setup attempt through a small network that took years to build. I basically buldozed it with a single sentence, because she was not enough like my interested target. The same d-n thing happened in college. I was intested in one and another that actually looked similar and was probably even attracted to me got my cold shoulder because I could not see the forest through the trees. I realized much later that she may have been hitting on me with a sympathy ploy when I found out my interest of the day had a boyfriend. Whoops! Actually, I probably brushed off several girls this way, because if they did not say, I did not see it.

That site sucks, it only finds old women. Women my age or older never seemed interested in me, so why should I be interested in them? Actually my age never interested and older never serious. I once tried out one of my babysitters because she could drive (that as far as my interest basically went) but she brought over a boyfriend to bop while she sat for me. That was her last day.

I was surprised myself to see how few women are interested in dating younger men. I don't particularly have a preference for older or younger women, provided that they are roughly in the same age group that I am, but I have found that the vast majority of women are seeking men a few years older than they are. This is probably largely because most women are attracted to financial stability. People tend to have higher incomes as they age, after all.

I notice that the men I am attracted to are usually older than I am. I think this is because older men are more mature and intelligent than men my own age. I am sure most women would agree with me. For me, their income has nothing to do with it.