Ever felt like you don't fit into any group?

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I've found that i swing from complete solitude to wanting to socialize then when i'm completely overwhelmed I retreat back to my isolation like a pendulum in pepetual motion....I love my solitude but I hate my solitude.

I've never fitted in in any kind of group situation. I thought that going to an AS social group would let me meet people that I could relate to, but that wasn't true. I'm totally different from all of them and while they all seem to form their groups varying in conversation from school to video games, I'm still isolated on the outside of them and am unable to figure out why. Even if I try to contribute to a conversation (not just at AS groups, but anywhere) I still can't work my way into a group.

Some animals are meant to be solitary. I'm one of them, although it would be nice to experience a group connection just for once.

Naw I was never really apart of any social "groups". When I was in school I went through times where I was somewhat popular and times where I had no friends at all. I've always been a outsider.

I usually feel quite lost myself...

When there where different groups of people, I used to jump between them in high school recess, or to talk with someone specific, or sitting alone.

Even today - at first I started going out drinking after high school, so at first it was with some groups, then I joined others, and basically I guess that even while socialising, it was important to be me. So now I just like going to same pub every time, where I feel at home, and the workers used to be customers, and the customers are loyal, in all ages... I like to come there, perhaps inviting someone in the way, and just sitting and waiting to see how it goes.

I always socialise today outside - 'cause of drinking - but I like seeing different people. Meeting new ones, hear something I didn't know before maybe. I always feel one, if I come with a group and they leave, sometimes I stay to see who arrives - or I can switch tables in the middle. I like seeing as much as possible, even though that's why I wish for girlfriend sometimes - because I still feel somewhat alone. Maybe because most people don't really understand me. Maybe because I'm the only one that thinks, or so I feel.

I once had a boss say to me: "It's like you're part of the team, but not part of the team. You work towards the same goals as the team, but you're somehow on your own." Which I think sums me up pretty well.

I was like this at college too. I didn't fit into one particular group, I would talk to people if they spoke to me, but I would go for lunch on my own and sit by myself at break times. I didn't really feel a need to connect with anyone else.

I did until I started going to the autism group I have near me.

I never really felt like an social pariah or anything. My high school was never very 'cliquey' (though I may have just not noticed it, that stuff usually goes over my head unless someone tells me about it), but I sort of fit in with the nerds. We usually only talked about classes or technical stuff and video games, rather than social drama and relationships, so that helped. I've had the same small core group of friends since middle school though I have still been the wierd one.
Now that we all went off to different colleges I've realized how different I am from most people and realized that I have absolutely no idea how to make new friends or indeed if I even want to. Nowadays I don't fit in with much of anyone, but it is more from a lack of trying rather than from getting rejected.

I get shunned by fellow Christians for having the interests I have, but get shunned by people with the same interests (who usually tend to be artsy hipsters) for being a Christian.

Oh yes... Right now I don't fit anywhere.

Groups are just a bunch of people.

I avoid groups of people, as it's safer and happier for me this way.