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zeldapsychology
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31 Jan 2010, 11:45 am

Brittany2907 wrote:
Yes and according to my former school teachers, I elaborate too much. Whenever it was required to write a book review or answer any kind of question in writing I would end up needing to use the back of the worksheet plus pages from my exercise book. I got many comments saying things like..."It's great that you are enthusiastic about your work, but try cut out the unimportant details in your answers/descriptions".

People in real life often tell me that as well but in a different way..."Yeah, I get the point. There's no need to go on about it for half an hour!"




I use to NOT elaborate on lets say English stories (where you have a list of questions at the end) and my teacher said what else could I put there. I was really getting into Psychology at the time so I said that person seems depressed and suicidal she said put that I said really she said ya. So I started applying Psychology to those stories which was awesome. :-)



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31 Jan 2010, 2:06 pm

I answer things ten different ways in order that my reasons might be understood from every possible angle, which is how I usually consider them. It's gotten some backlash.

I also make the mistake of doing this when I am trying to decline an offer and have sometimes, too often for my taste, come across the sort of people who have so much personally invested in my acceptance of their offer that they take my reasons as an opportunity for rebuttal. It's as if they believe I want to overcome my reasons for refusal rather that recognizing, as many people apparently do, that in my wishy-washy way I am just saying no. I mean, a lot of people, without getting where I'm coming from personally, do have the delicacy to see that I'm not interested and the respect to let me be. Even if they consider me rude, they do let it go. But it's the ones who argue until I'm ready to pound them that are the worst, and sadly I had to recognize that it is preventable if I just watch myself in the beginning of the interaction.

Of course, a flat-out refusal can still be taken as rude, or completely missed.


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