Why are we loud?

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I'm hardly ever loud when I'm speaking. Mostly after a "conversation" I come away with the strong impression that the other person was too "full of themselves" and not sensitive to my ideas, until I think back and then I begin to wonder whether the reason they talked over me so much was because my words were so quiet that they didn't realise I was speaking. On the other hand, I'm sure that a lot of sales people, teachers and officials deliberately try to capture the agenda and are engaged in a highly competitive game, and they're delighted when a mild-mannered individual turns up, ripe for manipulation. But a quiet voice should not mean that it's appropriate for the other person to take the lead and call the shots. Silence is NOT consent.

I tend to go limp in meetings, and probably frustrate everybody by seeming to go along with whatever they're trying to push through, only to later reveal that I have no intentions of co-operating with their agenda. But if they wonder why I didn't speak up at "the right time," my answer is simple - "because you bastards wouldn't let me get a word in edgeways!" I might word it more politely than that, but it does make me angry.

I've got this ideal that everybody should talk quietly and be particularly attentive to those who may have opinions but are too timid to voice them, so I wait to be asked.......unfortunately out in the real world conversation is mostly a game of push and shove, and you have to talk over the competition or they'll talk over you. But even though I've known that for ages, I still don't seem quite able to shout up. I can only do that when I get angry, as if I feel that quiet, sensitive talking is an important courtesy that should only be discarded when dealing with brash, insensitive morons.

There have been a few times when I've talked loudly because I'm feeling enthusiastic about what I'm saying and haven't noticed my volume is too high, but I quickly realise what's happened, get embarrassed, and tone it down again.

I tend to talk really loudly when I'm feeling excited or intense about a particular topic. I'm never aware that I'm doing it. It can be quite degrading when people tell me to lower my voice, especially how they say it. I notice though, oddly enough, that people in Europe rarely tell me to lower my voice, whereas in America they say it all the time, and can be quite mean about it.

I usually talk too soft. I hate talking loud.

The reason that I'm loud, is because people have talked over me, my whole entire life, and I'm bloody sick of it. I hate being talked over, and I'm not going to take it, any more.

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Sometimes too loud and clear. when I was a kid and did this, I was accused of attention seeking. Many people wished would just go away.

But did not, yet I try to modulate my voice though, and yes it is harder when I am excited about something.

I often talk loudly, most often when I'm angry or am excited about one of my special interests. With me, I think it's just an inability to monitor my volume. I don't notice that I'm talking too loudly, so my mom has to inform me. I've been told several times that people can hear me talking down the hall. I don't even notice when I'm too loud.
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I was thought to be deaf and had umteen hearing test but I could hear just fine. The results on the umteen hearing tests I had as a kid were always inconclusive. They played them too fast for me to keep up with and I would go into sensory overload from the feel of the headphones, constant, painful noises being played constantly and too fast for me to keep up with, not knowing when a sound would be played or what kind of sound it would be. I would shove off the headphones and usualy had a meltdown.

I'm always being told I am talking to loud and giving people a headache. My mother had a head injury as a child and as a result has always had reoccuring migranes; so she is more sensetive to loud noises than most people so when she says I am giving her a headache I believe her. Due to the shape of my ear cannals, my ears can't drain themselves of excess wax and grime. I have to go to an ENT and have them vaccumed clean.

I hate talking loudly too and hate being asked to speak up or to repeat myself. The only time I speak loudly enough to be heard is when I'm angry or very frustrated.

I tend to talk fairly quietly i can't stand loud people.

I can't stand them either.

when i get excited in a topic or conversation i get loud i think im expressing myself clearly but apparently im ranting loudly lol

I've got a voice like a fog horn when I'm talking alot I'm always told to lower my voice.